Yeshua clearly reminds us in Matthew 19:3-11 that when we marry it should be “until death do us part”. Divorce only exists because of the hardness of our hearts. We should not marry until we are ready to commit before God that it is for life… for better or for worse, in sickness and in health.
3 Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?”
4 “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’[a]” 5 And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’[b] 6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”
7 “Then why did Moses say in the law that a man could give his wife a written notice of divorce and send her away?”[c] they asked.
8 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted divorce only as a concession to your hard hearts, but it was not what God had originally intended. 9 And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful.[d]”
10 Jesus’ disciples then said to him, “If this is the case, it is better not to marry!”
11 “Not everyone can accept this statement,” Jesus said. “Only those whom God helps. 12 Some are born as eunuchs, some have been made eunuchs by others, and some choose not to marry[e] for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.”
I have found it helpful to invest time and resources together with my wife toward strengthening our marriage before we have trouble. I liken it to doing routine maintenance (e.g. like an oil change) in my car. I don’t wait for it to break down to change the oil. So for my marriage I should also invest before I experience difficulty.
Please take a look around our website on the Marriage page to see some simple advice and some recommended resources that can help you or someone you know with their marriage.
I invite you to pray with me:
Father, please lead and guide Your people to have more discernment with regard to marriage. Let us not rush into what should be a well thought out decision. Let us not decide only on emotions and passion of the moment, which may come and go over time. Let us seek wisdom in Your word and truly seek out the heart of a good and lasting marriage before we ever decide to make that commitment. “For better or for worse” does not mean “leave when it gets hard”. Amen.
Shalom
Devotion by John in service to Christ
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