Kindness / Gentleness, Love, Loving / Kind

Perfect Love, Properly Understood(1 John 4: 7-21)

When Scripture says “God is love,” do we pause to ask what that truly means — or do we allow culture to redefine it for us?

Key Verse:
“We love, because He first loved us.” —1 John 4:19 NASB

Background Context:
In 1 John 4:7–21, John makes one of the most profound statements in all of Scripture: God is love. But he does not leave that truth undefined. John roots love firmly in God’s actions, God’s holiness, and God’s purposes.

God’s love is revealed not in passive acceptance, but in sacrificial redemption. He sent His Son so that sin could be forgiven, not ignored. He gives His Spirit so that believers can be transformed, not left unchanged. John connects love to obedience, abiding, confidence before God, and genuine care for fellow believers.

This passage confronts shallow definitions of love and calls believers to understand and live out love God’s way.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

1 John 4: 7-21

God Is Love

      7Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 8The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love. 9By this the love of God was manifested in us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world so that we might live through Him. 10In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 11Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12No one has seen God at any time; if we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us. 13By this we know that we abide in Him and He in us, because He has given us of His Spirit. 14We have seen and testify that the Father has sent the Son to be the Savior of the world.

      15Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God. 16We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. 17By this, love is perfected with us, so that we may have confidence in the day of judgment; because as He is, so also are we in this world. 18There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. 19We love, because He first loved us. 20If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen. 21And this commandment we have from Him, that the one who loves God should love his brother also.

Reflection on 1 John 4:7–21:
“God is love” is one of the most quoted — and most misunderstood — statements in Scripture. John does not mean that God is love in the sense of unconditional acceptance of all behavior, lifestyles, or choices without repentance. God’s love is holy, purposeful, and redemptive.

God loved us first — while we were still sinners — but He loved us too much to leave us there. His love moved Him to send Yeshua to die for our sins so that forgiveness, repentance, and reconciliation could be possible. His love also moved Yeshua to affirm the Torah and the Prophets as God’s standard for righteous living, both by His teaching and by His perfect example.

God’s love continues through the indwelling Holy Spirit, given to believers as Counselor and Guide — not to affirm the ways of the world, but to help us turn away from sin and walk in obedience to God.

John teaches that our love is perfected by abiding in God. This does not mean we become flawless, but that love reaches its intended purpose as we live in relationship with Him, walking in His ways. As love matures, fear diminishes. Those who abide in God’s love need not fear the day of judgment, because their confidence rests in Christ’s finished work and a life oriented toward obedience.

John also emphasizes love for our brother. This raises an important question: who is our brother? Yeshua answers this clearly. Our brother is not defined simply as “everyone who breathes,” but as those who do the will of the Father.

Yeshua said:
“Whoever does the will of My Father who is in heaven, he is My brother and sister and mother.” (Matthew 12:50)

This does not mean we show hatred or cruelty toward unbelievers — Scripture calls us to kindness and truth for all — but it does clarify that biblical fellowship and family identity are rooted in submission to God.

Another critical question follows: how do we love God’s way?
Yeshua answers this as well. Love for God and love for others are inseparable from obedience to God’s commandments. According to Yeshua, the entire Torah and the Prophets hang on loving God and loving others — not as vague sentiment, but as lived obedience.

Yeshua said:
“On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.” (Matthew 22:40)

True love does not encourage people to remain in sin. That is man’s version of love, not God’s. God’s love tells the truth, calls for repentance, and invites transformation. Love that separates people from God is not love at all.

Biblical love shines light into darkness and points the way back to the Father through the Son. It calls us to be less like the world and more like Yeshua.

Application:

  • Define love biblically. Let Scripture, not culture, tell you what love truly is.

  • Remember God loved you first. Your obedience is a response, not a requirement to earn love.

  • Abide in God daily. Love matures as you live in relationship with Him.

  • Do not fear judgment. Perfect love casts out fear when your trust is in Christ.

  • Love your brother faithfully. Care for fellow believers with truth, humility, and action.

  • Speak truth in love. Do not use “love” as an excuse to affirm sin or silence truth.

Closing Prayer:
Father, thank You for loving me with a love that saves, transforms, and leads me into truth. Help me understand Your love as You define it — holy, faithful, and redemptive. Guard my heart from adopting the world’s version of love, and teach me to love You and others through obedience and truth. Let my life reflect the love You first showed me through Your Son. In Yeshua’s name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

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