Many have difficulty forgiving others for what they have done wrong or at times even just what they have done different from expectations… even though it is not wrong. Many of these same people bear a burden of guilt because they can not forgive themselves for their past mistakes either. They do not know how to forgive or accept forgiveness.
They may hold bitterness and unforgiveness in their hearts toward many around them for perceived wrongs or actual wrongs they received. It eats them up inside and suffocates their joy. We see some insight into this area in Genesis 50 whereby Joseph’s brothers, after many years, still can not grasp that Joseph holds no grudge. He has truly forgiven them.
Burial at Machpelah
12Thus his sons did for him as he had charged them; 13for his sons carried him to the land of Canaan and buried him in the cave of the field of Machpelah before Mamre, which Abraham had bought along with the field for a burial site from Ephron the Hittite. 14After he had buried his father, Joseph returned to Egypt, he and his brothers, and all who had gone up with him to bury his father.
15When Joseph’s brothers saw that their father was dead, they said, “What if Joseph bears a grudge against us and pays us back in full for all the wrong which we did to him!” 16So they sent a message to Joseph, saying, “Your father charged before he died, saying, 17‘Thus you shall say to Joseph, “Please forgive, I beg you, the transgression of your brothers and their sin, for they did you wrong.”’ And now, please forgive the transgression of the servants of the God of your father.” And Joseph wept when they spoke to him. 18Then his brothers also came and fell down before him and said, “Behold, we are your servants.” 19But Joseph said to them, “Do not be afraid, for am I in God’s place? 20“As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive. 21“So therefore, do not be afraid; I will provide for you and your little ones.” So he comforted them and spoke kindly to them.
There were many injustices done to Joseph in his life and they were significant. However, Joseph walked with God. He learned to forgive others through his relationship with God. He did not hold grudges. He set himself apart from the normal expected behavior of others to be ready for God’s use… to be holy.
Are you experiencing difficulty forgiving yourself or forgiving others? Do you carry around a burden of guilt for your past mistakes? Humbly come before Jesus Christ. Admit that you are a sinner and you have done wrong. Do not make excuses or rationalize why you were not really wrong. Ask Jesus to forgive you. Turn from the wrong behaviors and turn your attitude and behaviors toward those of God.
18“Come now, and let us reason together,”
Says the LORD,
“Though your sins are as scarlet,
They will be as white as snow;
Though they are red like crimson,
They will be like wool.
19“If you consent and obey,
You will eat the best of the land;
20“But if you refuse and rebel,
You will be devoured by the sword.”
Truly, the mouth of the LORD has spoken.
Then accept the forgiveness He offers! But you must submit to Jesus as Lord. It is not enough to know who He is or believe He exists. Even Satan and demons do that! You must obey God in His commands… that is what it means to submit to Him. To say I “believe” in God, but to change nothing in your lifestyle is to reveal empty words. True belief is active and affects our choices… both behaviors and attitudes. Since I believe in gravity, I will not step off a roof. Since I believe in God, I will obey His commands in my life rather than doing things my way… and that requires visible change.
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