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Godly Living in an Ungodly World (1 Peter 3)

How does your life reflect Christ in your relationships and daily interactions?

1 Peter 3 provides deep and practical guidelines for living in a godly way, especially within marriage and in our interactions with others. Peter continues the theme from chapter 2, where he encouraged believers—including servants—to submit even to unjust authorities. Here, he teaches how husbands, wives, and all believers are to live in a way that honors God, influences others for Christ, and brings blessing even in the face of suffering.

Key Verse:
“But sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence.” – 1 Peter 3:15 (NASB)

Background Context:
Peter was writing to believers scattered throughout a pagan world, encouraging them to live differently—to reflect Christ in a culture that rejected Him. The instructions given here were countercultural then, just as they are today. Submission in marriage, returning good for evil, and suffering righteously are not natural human responses. Yet, these behaviors reflect Christ’s humility, love, and purpose. The ultimate goal is not personal comfort or power, but to glorify God and lead others to Him.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

1 Peter 3

Godly Living

      1In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, 2as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. 3Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; 4but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 5For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; 6just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.

      7You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.

      8To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; 9not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.

10For,
“THE ONE WHO DESIRES LIFE, TO LOVE AND SEE GOOD DAYS,
MUST KEEP HIS TONGUE FROM EVIL AND HIS LIPS FROM SPEAKING DECEIT.

      11“HE MUST TURN AWAY FROM EVIL AND DO GOOD;
HE MUST SEEK PEACE AND PURSUE IT.

      12“FOR THE EYES OF THE LORD ARE TOWARD THE RIGHTEOUS,
AND HIS EARS ATTEND TO THEIR PRAYER,
BUT THE FACE OF THE LORD IS AGAINST THOSE WHO DO EVIL.”

      13Who is there to harm you if you prove zealous for what is good? 14But even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, you are blessed. AND DO NOT FEAR THEIR INTIMIDATION, AND DO NOT BE TROUBLED, 15but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence; 16and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame. 17For it is better, if God should will it so, that you suffer for doing what is right rather than for doing what is wrong. 18For Christ also died for sins once for all, the just for the unjust, so that He might bring us to God, having been put to death in the flesh, but made alive in the spirit; 19in which also He went and made proclamation to the spirits now in prison, 20who once were disobedient, when the patience of God kept waiting in the days of Noah, during the construction of the ark, in which a few, that is, eight persons, were brought safely through the water. 21Corresponding to that, baptism now saves you—not the removal of dirt from the flesh, but an appeal to God for a good conscience—through the resurrection of Jesus Christ, 22who is at the right hand of God, having gone into heaven, after angels and authorities and powers had been subjected to Him.

Reflection on 1 Peter 3:

Godly Submission and Honor in Marriage (1 Peter 3:1-7)

  • Wives: A Witness Through Submission
    Peter calls wives to submit to their husbands, even if they are unbelievers, so that their respectful and pure behavior may lead them to Christ (1 Peter 3:1-2). This is not about inferiority but about trusting God’s design for marriage and allowing godly conduct to be a testimony. Are you honoring God in the way you respond to your spouse?

  • True Beauty Comes from the Heart
    Rather than focusing on outward appearance, Peter urges women to cultivate “the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit” (1 Peter 3:4). This does not mean women should be silent, but that their strength should be rooted in faith, trust, and godly character. Is your focus more on outward beauty or inner holiness?

  • Husbands: Live With Understanding and Honor
    Peter commands husbands to dwell with their wives “in an understanding way” and to honor them as “fellow heirs of the grace of life” (1 Peter 3:7). This means listening, valuing, and loving their wives as Christ loves the Church. Failure to do so can hinder their prayers. Are you treating your spouse with honor and understanding?

Living as a Reflection of Christ (1 Peter 3:8-17)

  • Bless, Even When You Are Insulted
    Peter calls all believers to be “harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble” (1 Peter 3:8) and to “not return evil for evil” but instead offer blessings (1 Peter 3:9). This is how we demonstrate Christ’s love and righteousness in a world that often opposes us. How do you respond when treated unfairly?

  • Seek Peace and Pursue It
    “The eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous, and His ears attend to their prayer” (1 Peter 3:12). God’s favor is upon those who pursue peace and righteousness. Do your words and actions reflect God’s peace in your daily life?

  • Be Ready to Give an Answer for Your Faith
    When suffering for righteousness, Peter encourages believers to be “ready to make a defense” for the hope within them, but “with gentleness and reverence” (1 Peter 3:15). This means being prepared to share our faith in a way that reflects Christ’s love, not arrogance or argumentativeness. Can you explain your faith in a way that draws others to Christ?

Christ, Our Ultimate Example (1 Peter 3:18-22)

  • Suffering with Purpose
    Christ suffered unjustly to bring us to God (1 Peter 3:18). When we endure hardship for righteousness, we follow His example. Do you trust God’s plan, even when you suffer unfairly?

  • Baptism: A Symbol of Our Salvation
    Peter compares baptism to Noah’s salvation through the flood—symbolizing that believers have been saved through Christ’s resurrection (1 Peter 3:21). Baptism does not remove sin, but it is an outward declaration of our inward faith. Have you fully embraced your new identity in Christ?

Summary Key Points:

  • Wives’ submission is a testimony of faith, not inferiority.
  • Husbands are to honor their wives as co-heirs of God’s grace.
  • All believers are called to respond to evil with kindness and blessing.
  • We must be ready to defend our faith with gentleness and respect.
  • Christ’s suffering is our example—righteous suffering has a purpose.

Application:

  • If you are married, reflect on how you are honoring your spouse. Are you living in a way that glorifies God and reflects Christ’s love?
  • Examine how you respond to mistreatment—are you returning evil with kindness and entrusting justice to God?
  • Are you prepared to share your faith with others? Pray for opportunities to explain the hope you have in Christ.
  • When facing suffering, remind yourself that Christ endured unjust suffering for your sake. Stand firm in faith, knowing that God sees and honors righteousness.

Closing Prayer:

Heavenly Father, thank You for calling me to live in a way that honors You. Help me to be faithful in my relationships, responding to others with grace and humility. Give me the strength to endure trials with patience and to reflect Christ’s love in all I do. May my life be a testimony of Your goodness, and may I always be ready to share the hope that is in me. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

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