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Blessed, Children, Faith / Trusting God, His Ways Are Not Our Ways

When God Crosses Our Expectations (Genesis 48:12–22)

Are you willing to trust God’s choice—even when it doesn’t align with what seems right or fair?

Key Verse:
“I know, my son, I know; he also will become a people and he also will be great. However, his younger brother shall be greater than he.” —Genesis 48:19 NASB

Background Context:
After adopting Ephraim and Manasseh as his own, Jacob prepares to bless them. Joseph positions his sons carefully—Manasseh, the firstborn, at Jacob’s right hand, and Ephraim at his left—expecting the traditional order of blessing. What follows is deliberate, not accidental. Jacob crosses his hands and blesses the younger son first, defying custom and expectation.

This moment echoes earlier patterns in Genesis and reveals a consistent truth about God’s work: His purposes are not governed by human hierarchy, tradition, or assumption.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Genesis 48:12–22

12Then Joseph took them from his knees, and bowed with his face to the ground. 13Joseph took them both, Ephraim with his right hand toward Israel’s left, and Manasseh with his left hand toward Israel’s right, and brought them close to him. 14But Israel stretched out his right hand and laid it on the head of Ephraim, who was the younger, and his left hand on Manasseh’s head, crossing his hands, although Manasseh was the firstborn.

15He blessed Joseph, and said,
“The God before whom my fathers Abraham and Isaac walked,
The God who has been my shepherd all my life to this day,

      16The angel who has redeemed me from all evil,
Bless the lads;
And may my name live on in them,
And the names of my fathers Abraham and Isaac;
And may they grow into a multitude in the midst of the earth.”

      17When Joseph saw that his father laid his right hand on Ephraim’s head, it displeased him; and he grasped his father’s hand to remove it from Ephraim’s head to Manasseh’s head. 18Joseph said to his father, “Not so, my father, for this one is the firstborn. Place your right hand on his head.” 19But his father refused and said, “I know, my son, I know; he also will become a people and he also will be great. However, his younger brother shall be greater than he, and his descendants shall become a multitude of nations.”

20He blessed them that day, saying,
“By you Israel will pronounce blessing, saying,
‘May God make you like Ephraim and Manasseh!’”
Thus he put Ephraim before Manasseh.

21Then Israel said to Joseph, “Behold, I am about to die, but God will be with you, and bring you back to the land of your fathers. 22“I give you one portion more than your brothers, which I took from the hand of the Amorite with my sword and my bow.”

Reflection on Genesis 48:12–22:
Joseph’s reaction is immediate. Seeing the crossed hands, he attempts to correct his father. From Joseph’s perspective, this is a mistake—perhaps the result of old age or failing eyesight. But Jacob’s response is calm, firm, and confident: “I know, my son, I know.” This is not confusion. It is conviction.

Jacob understands something Joseph does not yet fully grasp. God’s blessing has never followed human order. From Isaac over Ishmael, Jacob over Esau, and now Ephraim over Manasseh, God consistently demonstrates that His purposes are shaped by grace, not entitlement.

This moment reveals a faith that trusts God completely. Jacob does not argue his reasoning or defend his choice emotionally. He simply aligns himself with God’s will. He has lived long enough to recognize that God’s hand often moves in unexpected ways—and that resisting it only leads to struggle.

Jacob’s blessing also looks beyond the present. He speaks of future greatness and reminds Joseph that God will bring his descendants back to the land of promise. Even as he blesses in Egypt, his hope remains fixed on God’s covenant, not on comfort or circumstance.

Genesis 48 closes with a reminder that blessing is not something we control—it is something we receive. Faith is not insisting God follow our plans, but trusting Him when He chooses differently.

Application:

  • Release the need to control outcomes and trust God’s wisdom.

  • Recognize that God’s blessings are shaped by grace, not human order.

  • Avoid correcting God when His ways challenge your expectations.

  • Trust that God sees beyond what is immediate and visible.

  • Align your faith with God’s purposes, even when they surprise you.

Closing Prayer:
Father, help me trust Your hand even when I don’t understand Your choices. Teach me to release my expectations and rest in Your wisdom. Strengthen my faith to follow You faithfully, knowing that Your purposes are always good and Your plans are always sure. In Yeshua’s name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Children, Envy / Jealousy / Coveting, Faith / Trusting God, Humility, Parenting, Wise

When Favoritism Fractures a Family (Genesis 37:1–11)

Have you ever seen how a parent’s choices — even unintentional ones — can quietly shape resentment, insecurity, and division within a family?

Key Verse:
“Israel loved Joseph more than all his sons… and he made him a varicolored tunic.” —Genesis 37:3 NASB

Background Context:
Genesis 37 opens a new major section in Genesis — the story of Joseph. Joseph is seventeen years old, the firstborn son of Rachel, the wife Jacob loved most. Jacob openly favors Joseph over his other sons and expresses this favoritism by giving him a special robe.

Joseph also receives dreams from God that indicate future authority and prominence, but he shares them without discernment. His brothers respond with jealousy and hatred. What begins as favoritism and immature speech quickly grows into deep family division.

This chapter does not arise in isolation. The dysfunction we see here is rooted in earlier choices — particularly Jacob’s marriage to multiple wives and the long-standing pattern of favoritism that already fractured his family once before.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Genesis 37:1–11

Joseph’s Dream

      1Now Jacob lived in the land where his father had sojourned, in the land of Canaan. 2These are the records of the generations of Jacob.
Joseph, when seventeen years of age, was pasturing the flock with his brothers while he was still a youth, along with the sons of Bilhah and the sons of Zilpah, his father’s wives. And Joseph brought back a bad report about them to their father. 3Now Israel loved Joseph more than all his sons, because he was the son of his old age; and he made him a varicolored tunic. 4His brothers saw that their father loved him more than all his brothers; and so they hated him and could not speak to him on friendly terms.

      5Then Joseph had a dream, and when he told it to his brothers, they hated him even more. 6He said to them, “Please listen to this dream which I have had; 7for behold, we were binding sheaves in the field, and lo, my sheaf rose up and also stood erect; and behold, your sheaves gathered around and bowed down to my sheaf.” 8Then his brothers said to him, “Are you actually going to reign over us? Or are you really going to rule over us?” So they hated him even more for his dreams and for his words.

      9Now he had still another dream, and related it to his brothers, and said, “Lo, I have had still another dream; and behold, the sun and the moon and eleven stars were bowing down to me.” 10He related it to his father and to his brothers; and his father rebuked him and said to him, “What is this dream that you have had? Shall I and your mother and your brothers actually come to bow ourselves down before you to the ground?” 11His brothers were jealous of him, but his father kept the saying in mind.

Reflection on Genesis 37:1–11:
Joseph’s story begins not with betrayal, but with favoritism. Scripture is clear: Jacob loved Joseph more than his other sons. This was not Joseph’s fault — it was his father’s failure.

Jacob had lived this pattern before. His own parents favored different sons — Isaac favored Esau, Rebekah favored Jacob — and that favoritism nearly destroyed their family. Now, the same sin resurfaces in the next generation.

The root problem goes even deeper. Jacob’s family structure itself was broken. God never designed marriage to include multiple wives, yet Jacob took four women — Leah, Rachel, Bilhah, and Zilpah. The result was predictable: rivalry, jealousy, insecurity, and division among the children. When a family is formed through competition rather than covenant unity, the wounds echo for generations.

Joseph’s robe becomes a symbol — not just of favor, but of inequality. It publicly announces Jacob’s preference and quietly tells the other sons that they are less loved. This kind of favoritism poisons family relationships, breeding resentment and bitterness long before open conflict erupts.

Joseph’s dreams are from God, yet Joseph lacks wisdom in sharing them. He speaks truth without humility or discernment, unaware that timing and tone matter. God’s calling on our lives does not excuse immaturity or insensitivity.

This passage reminds us that God’s plans often begin in broken environments. Joseph’s future deliverance of many lives will come through a deeply flawed family. God’s sovereignty is not threatened by human failure — but human failure still brings real pain.

Genesis 37:1–11 shows us how unchecked favoritism, poor family leadership, and lack of wisdom can sow seeds of jealousy that later grow into devastating consequences.

Application:

  • Reject favoritism. Parents must guard against showing preference, which damages trust and unity.

  • Learn from past patterns. Sin that is not addressed often repeats across generations.

  • Value God’s design for family. God’s structure brings peace; deviation invites conflict.

  • Speak with wisdom. Even God-given truth must be shared with humility and discernment.

  • Address jealousy early. Bitterness grows when ignored.

  • Trust God in broken beginnings. He can still accomplish His purposes despite human failure.

Closing Prayer:
Father, thank You for Your honesty in Scripture, showing both human weakness and divine faithfulness. Help me learn from the mistakes of those who came before me. Guard my heart from favoritism, pride, and careless words. Teach me to lead my family with wisdom, humility, and fairness. Where brokenness exists, bring healing, and let Your purposes prevail even through imperfect people. In Yeshua’s name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Children, Parenting, Traditions / Holidays

A Heartfelt Reflection on Family Traditions (The Parable of Two Fathers)

In the heart of a town, two fathers stood as neighbors, each with a son, driven by a common desire to honor God. Both attended church faithfully, praying and reading the Bible with their sons. Yet, their paths diverged, shaping the destinies of their families.

The first father, unwavering in his commitment to God, faced mockery for standing firm in his convictions. He refused to lie to his son, and his son noticed.  His son observed this courage, and the father’s honesty resonated deeply. He instilled a belief in one God, teaching that God defines good and bad, and sin carries consequences.

As the son grew older, he sometimes wondered how he could know Jesus was real since he could not “see” him or “touch” him but accepted it because his father was always honest with him. He learned to stand for Jesus even when it was hard, because he learned by watching his father.

In contrast, the second father clung to generational traditions, content in a comfortable existence. He blended truths with fanciful tales, weaving a web of make-believe characters into his son’s life. It felt comfortable, most of his friends and neighbors lived their lives in a similar manner so there was no conflict.

He did not feel that God really cared that much about some areas of how he and his family led their daily lives. He told his son that Jesus was the way to God, but he also liked to tell his son seemingly harmless made-up stories about make believe characters. He enjoyed telling his son about the tooth fairy, Easter bunny, and of course Santa Claus. He continued the stories for many years until finally his son would learn on his own that each story was not true.

The father even went out of his way to provide false evidence that the stories were true… like money under the pillow for a tooth or telling his son that the bunny hid the eggs and brought him a basket, and of course having lots of presents at Christmas… all from Santa.  He even ate cookies and milk on behalf of Santa. After all, it’s just a bit of fun. What harm can it do?

Yet, as his son grew older, the line between reality and fiction blurred, leaving him with doubts about Jesus and the Bible. The son sometimes wondered how he could know Jesus was real since he could not “see” him or “touch” him. He loved his father, but throughout his life his father had lied to him and even gone out of his way to fake evidence in many make-believe characters. He could not help but wonder if Jesus and the Bible were like the rest of the made-up stories and he had many doubts.

Reflections on Tradition and Truth

Let’s pause and consider the stories we tell our children. Are we unknowingly weaving a web of lies, disrupting the authenticity of our faith journey? Beyond the potential mistrust caused by falsehoods, we must scrutinize the deeper impact of our traditions.

Take the story of Santa Claus—a representative example. It shifts the focus of Christmas from giving to receiving, emphasizing deserving gifts based on behavior. The supposed accountability for “bad” actions becomes inconsequential, undermining the idea of consequences for wrong choices. Furthermore, Santa, an all-knowing and eternal figure, can be seen as a subtle replacement for God.

Christmas Traditions and Their Underlying Messages

The story of Santa, widely accepted and celebrated, inadvertently draws attention away from God, causing confusion and doubt. As Christians, it’s crucial to question whether our cherished traditions align with God’s message. It’s not merely about lying to our children but about the values and lessons embedded in these stories.

Trying to tell a child Christmas is about Jesus, but then overwhelming them with presents and made-up stories about Santa is like telling a child to eat a carrot and then putting in front of them a table full of cookies, brownies, cakes, and ice cream. At the very least, the table of desserts is a major distraction. In most cases, the children will remember the desserts long after they forget the carrot.

After spending years lying to children and convincing them that Santa is real, even when they start to recognize it and ask questions, we will then tell them it was all in fun… but trust me about Jesus.

Even Atheists Like Santa

Santa is in fact accepted around the world by many because he is absolutely not pointing to God, but rather distracting attention away from God or replacing God completely. Christians and non-Christians alike accept him. In one example, Santa’s picture was used as a spokesman for a billboard campaign by atheists basically saying we can be good without need of God. “Go ahead and skip church! Just be good for goodness sake.” (link to article here). [How an atheist can define “good” while claiming there is no God is an interesting conversation for another day.]

The Emotional Challenge of Change

Recognizing the need for change is emotional and challenging. Yet, standing for Christ above all else, even within our families, is a commitment Christ himself acknowledged would stir discord. (Matthew 10:32-39)

Choose God’s Ways Over Man-Made Traditions

In the spirit of self-reflection, challenge yourself to objectively evaluate your traditions. Seek God’s truth in His word and apply it in your life. Remember, God desires His people to be holy and righteous, placing Him above all else.

A Call to Prayerful Action

May this reflection be an awakening, prompting prayerful consideration. We encourage you to seek God’s guidance, bravely stepping into a journey where His ways triumph over the traditions of man.

Closing Challenge: Put God First

As we conclude, remember the words of Jesus—choose God over familial bonds, prioritizing Christ above all. For in giving up our lives for Him, we truly find life.

God wants his people to be holy (set apart for God’s use) and righteous (living according to God’s commands rather than the world’s). He wants us to put Him first, above everything else.

Challenge yourself to objectively evaluate your traditions and seek first the kingdom of God. Do not dismiss this quickly but rather prayerfully seek God to show you the truth of His word and how to apply it in your life.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Children, Compassionate, Faithful, Greed, Idols / False Gods, Intgegrity / Honesty, Lying / Deceiving, Parenting, Protector / Deliverer

God Our Defender: Faithfulness Amid Deception (Genesis 31:22-55)

God can work through anyone — even those who don’t follow Him — to protect His people and accomplish His will.

Have you ever faced a situation where you were treated unfairly, yet later saw that God had been working behind the scenes to protect and guide you?

Key Verse:
“It is in my power to do you harm, but the God of your father spoke to me last night, saying, ‘Be careful not to speak either good or bad to Jacob.’” —Genesis 31:29 NASB

Background Context:
After Jacob secretly left Haran with his family and possessions, Laban discovered his departure and pursued him for seven days. Before Laban could confront Jacob, however, God appeared to him in a dream, warning him not to harm Jacob or even speak harshly against him. This is remarkable because Laban was not a godly man — he was an idol-worshiper and deceiver. Yet even through this ungodly man, God communicated clearly to ensure Jacob’s safety.

When Laban caught up with Jacob, he accused him of deceit and theft. Jacob responded truthfully, defending his integrity and recounting twenty years of loyal service under Laban’s constant mistreatment. After Laban’s fruitless search for the stolen idols (which Rachel had hidden), the two men made a covenant of peace, setting up a heap of stones as a witness between them.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Genesis 31:22-55

Laban Pursues Jacob

      22When it was told Laban on the third day that Jacob had fled, 23then he took his kinsmen with him and pursued him a distance of seven days’ journey, and he overtook him in the hill country of Gilead. 24God came to Laban the Aramean in a dream of the night and said to him, “Be careful that you do not speak to Jacob either good or bad.”

      25Laban caught up with Jacob. Now Jacob had pitched his tent in the hill country, and Laban with his kinsmen camped in the hill country of Gilead. 26Then Laban said to Jacob, “What have you done by deceiving me and carrying away my daughters like captives of the sword? 27“Why did you flee secretly and deceive me, and did not tell me so that I might have sent you away with joy and with songs, with timbrel and with lyre; 28and did not allow me to kiss my sons and my daughters? Now you have done foolishly. 29“It is in my power to do you harm, but the God of your father spoke to me last night, saying, ‘Be careful not to speak either good or bad to Jacob.’ 30“Now you have indeed gone away because you longed greatly for your father’s house; but why did you steal my gods?” 31Then Jacob replied to Laban, “Because I was afraid, for I thought that you would take your daughters from me by force. 32“The one with whom you find your gods shall not live; in the presence of our kinsmen point out what is yours among my belongings and take it for yourself.” For Jacob did not know that Rachel had stolen them.

      33So Laban went into Jacob’s tent and into Leah’s tent and into the tent of the two maids, but he did not find them. Then he went out of Leah’s tent and entered Rachel’s tent. 34Now Rachel had taken the household idols and put them in the camel’s saddle, and she sat on them. And Laban felt through all the tent but did not find them. 35She said to her father, “Let not my lord be angry that I cannot rise before you, for the manner of women is upon me.” So he searched but did not find the household idols.

      36Then Jacob became angry and contended with Laban; and Jacob said to Laban, “What is my transgression? What is my sin that you have hotly pursued me? 37“Though you have felt through all my goods, what have you found of all your household goods? Set it here before my kinsmen and your kinsmen, that they may decide between us two. 38“These twenty years I have been with you; your ewes and your female goats have not miscarried, nor have I eaten the rams of your flocks. 39“That which was torn of beasts I did not bring to you; I bore the loss of it myself. You required it of my hand whether stolen by day or stolen by night. 40“Thus I was: by day the heat consumed me and the frost by night, and my sleep fled from my eyes. 41“These twenty years I have been in your house; I served you fourteen years for your two daughters and six years for your flock, and you changed my wages ten times. 42“If the God of my father, the God of Abraham, and the fear of Isaac, had not been for me, surely now you would have sent me away empty-handed. God has seen my affliction and the toil of my hands, so He rendered judgment last night.”

The Covenant of Mizpah

      43Then Laban replied to Jacob, “The daughters are my daughters, and the children are my children, and the flocks are my flocks, and all that you see is mine. But what can I do this day to these my daughters or to their children whom they have borne? 44“So now come, let us make a covenant, you and I, and let it be a witness between you and me.” 45Then Jacob took a stone and set it up as a pillar. 46Jacob said to his kinsmen, “Gather stones.” So they took stones and made a heap, and they ate there by the heap. 47Now Laban called it Jegar-sahadutha, but Jacob called it Galeed. 48Laban said, “This heap is a witness between you and me this day.” Therefore it was named Galeed, 49and Mizpah, for he said, “May the LORD watch between you and me when we are absent one from the other. 50“If you mistreat my daughters, or if you take wives besides my daughters, although no man is with us, see, God is witness between you and me.” 51Laban said to Jacob, “Behold this heap and behold the pillar which I have set between you and me. 52“This heap is a witness, and the pillar is a witness, that I will not pass by this heap to you for harm, and you will not pass by this heap and this pillar to me, for harm. 53“The God of Abraham and the God of Nahor, the God of their father, judge between us.” So Jacob swore by the fear of his father Isaac. 54Then Jacob offered a sacrifice on the mountain, and called his kinsmen to the meal; and they ate the meal and spent the night on the mountain. 55Early in the morning Laban arose, and kissed his sons and his daughters and blessed them. Then Laban departed and returned to his place.

Reflection on Genesis 31:22–55:
One of the first lessons in this passage is that God is perfectly capable of speaking through anyone — even non-believers — to accomplish His purposes. Laban’s dream is proof of God’s sovereignty. Though Laban was deceitful, greedy, and idolatrous, God used him as an instrument of protection for Jacob.

Notice how Laban referred to God: “the God of your father.” He did not call Him his God. Laban knew of God’s power but never submitted to His authority. This shows a dangerous truth — knowing about God is not the same as knowing God.

Laban’s hypocrisy is also revealing. He, who had deceived Jacob repeatedly and changed his wages ten times, was quick to cry foul when he felt deceived. This kind of self-centered morality — measuring right and wrong by “How does it affect me?” instead of God’s standard — is still common today. God’s people must be different. We are called to measure our actions by God’s Word, not by convenience or self-interest.

Rachel’s theft of her father’s idols also highlights a tragic lesson. She clung to false gods instead of trusting the true God of her husband. The deception she learned from her father’s example took root in her own life. A family raised in dishonesty easily repeats those patterns — and clever deception, while impressive to the world, is never admired by God.

Jacob, however, continues to grow in righteousness. When confronted, he didn’t lie or make excuses. He explained why he left secretly, acknowledged God’s protection, and boldly declared his innocence. After enduring twenty years of injustice, Jacob could confidently say, “God has seen my affliction and the toil of my hands, and He rendered judgment last night.” (v.42)

This is the heart of the story: Jacob’s integrity and God’s faithfulness. Laban’s greed and deceit could not overcome God’s protection. Even through hardship, Jacob’s honest work and trust in God led to peace and blessing.

For us today, the lesson is clear — God’s protection doesn’t mean life will be easy. Jacob suffered unfair treatment, exhaustion, and fear, yet through it all, he found that God’s hand never left him. God does not promise a life free of struggle, but He does promise His presence in it. And His presence is always enough.

Application:

  • Trust God’s sovereignty. He can work through anyone or anything — even unbelievers — to accomplish His purposes and protect His people.

  • Hold to God’s standard, not your own. Don’t fall into Laban’s hypocrisy of calling things “wrong” only when they hurt you.

  • Work hard and live with integrity. Like Jacob, let your faithfulness speak louder than your defense.

  • Let go of false securities. Don’t cling to “idols” — whether literal, emotional, or material — for comfort or control.

  • Draw nearer to God in difficulty. He does not promise ease, but He promises His presence, protection, and ultimate justice.

If you are facing unfair treatment, family tension, or a situation that feels unjust, take courage. God sees. He knows. And He can defend you in ways you could never arrange yourself.

Closing Prayer:
Father, thank You that You are sovereign over all people and circumstances. Even when I face injustice or conflict, I know You see and protect me. Help me to live with integrity, to measure my actions by Your truth, and to trust You when others mistreat me. Keep me from hypocrisy and idolatry, and teach me to find peace in Your presence. Thank You for being my defender and my refuge. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Children, Marriage, Peace / Rest, Purposeful / Intentional

When Choices Bring Peace—or Pain (Genesis 26:26-35)

Living faithfully means pursuing peace with others while grieving when loved ones walk away from God.

Key Verse:
“Then he made them a feast, and they ate and drank. In the morning they arose early and exchanged oaths; then Isaac sent them away, and they departed from him in peace.” —Genesis 26:30–31 NASB

Background Context:
Abimelech, the king of the Philistines, recognized that Isaac’s prosperity came from God. Fearing conflict, he sought a covenant of peace with Isaac. Isaac, though previously mistreated by Abimelech’s people, chose to respond graciously. They made a treaty, shared a meal, and parted in peace. Immediately afterward, Isaac’s servants found water, further confirming God’s provision. The chapter closes with Esau’s marriages to Hittite women, which brought grief to Isaac and Rebekah—a reminder that family choices can cause deep sorrow when they run against God’s ways.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Genesis 26(26-35)

Covenant with Abimelech

      26Then Abimelech came to him from Gerar with his adviser Ahuzzath and Phicol the commander of his army. 27Isaac said to them, “Why have you come to me, since you hate me and have sent me away from you?” 28They said, “We see plainly that the LORD has been with you; so we said, ‘Let there now be an oath between us, even between you and us, and let us make a covenant with you, 29that you will do us no harm, just as we have not touched you and have done to you nothing but good and have sent you away in peace. You are now the blessed of the LORD.’” 30Then he made them a feast, and they ate and drank. 31In the morning they arose early and exchanged oaths; then Isaac sent them away and they departed from him in peace. 32Now it came about on the same day, that Isaac’s servants came in and told him about the well which they had dug, and said to him, “We have found water.” 33So he called it Shibah; therefore the name of the city is Beersheba to this day.

      34When Esau was forty years old he married Judith the daughter of Beeri the Hittite, and Basemath the daughter of Elon the Hittite; 35and they brought grief to Isaac and Rebekah.

Reflection on Genesis 26:26–35:
Isaac’s response to Abimelech shows maturity and trust in God. Though he had been wronged, he chose the path of peace. This echoes Paul’s later words: “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men” (Romans 12:18). Isaac’s willingness to reconcile pointed back to God’s blessing, not to human strength.

Yet the joy of covenant peace was mingled with the pain of Esau’s choices. His marriage to Hittite women outside of God’s covenant people showed disregard for his heritage and faith, causing grief to his parents. This tension illustrates a reality many believers face: joy in God’s provision alongside sorrow when loved ones stray.

Application:
Seek to live honorably before all, even with those outside the faith, pursuing peace where possible. Trust that God’s blessing will shine through and point others to Him. At the same time, when loved ones make choices that grieve you, bring that pain to God in prayer. He knows the sorrow of rejection and can give strength to remain faithful even when family walks another path.

Closing Prayer:
Father, help me to walk in peace with others, showing patience and grace even when I’ve been wronged. May my life reflect Your blessing and point others to You. When I face sorrow because of loved ones’ choices, give me strength to trust You and keep praying for them. Thank You that You are faithful, both in providing peace and in sustaining me through grief. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you. John Golda

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Children, Father / Yahweh, Parenting, Traditions / Holidays

Guided by YHWH: Embodying the Qualities of a Good Father

Good fathers should pursue after Christ and be spiritual leaders in their family. They should put YHWH first, their wife next and then the children in their priority list and then actually live their lives according to that standard. YHWH has said much about what it means to be a good father. It need not be a mystery.

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Psalm 103:13 Just as a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear Him.

Colossians 3:21 Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.

Psalm 127:3-5 Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; they will not be ashamed when they speak with their enemies in the gate.

Luke 11:11-12 “Now suppose one of you fathers is asked by his son for a fish; he will not give him a snake instead of a fish, will he? “Or if he is asked for an egg, he will not give him a scorpion, will he?

Joshua 24:14-15 “Now, therefore, fear the LORD and serve Him in sincerity and truth; and put away the gods which your fathers served beyond the River and in Egypt, and serve the LORD. 15“If it is disagreeable in your sight to serve the LORD, choose for yourselves today whom you will serve: whether the gods which your fathers served which were beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living; but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”

Perhaps some scripture does not explicitly call out “fathers”, but as in Joshua 24:14-15… he demonstrates the role of a good father as a strong leader for his family committed to serving YHWH even if others refuse to do so. Psalm 127:3-5 shows a good father feels blessed to have received the gift of children.

There are many more such scriptures. I encourage you to do an internet search for “Bible scriptures about good fathers” and invest time to dive deeper. In fact, YHWH gives us the metaphor to think of Him like a Father and He is perfect. Thus we can learn a lot about being a good father from studying how He relates to His people.

Good fathers are not perfect… there is only one perfect Father. On behalf of all those fathers out there who are trying to lead, protect and provide for their families, we appreciate your grace and forgiveness when we get it wrong, and we welcome your prayers and encouragement on our behalf so we may become better and better at what YHWH has called us to be… fathers.

I invite you to pray with me:

Father, thank You for the righteous fathers that are trying to lead their families in Your ways. Please help and encourage fathers to lead and love their families actively. Help fathers reflect Your character traits and be a light to others that do not know You and  godly example to their children. Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Blessed, Children, Peace / Rest, Protector / Deliverer, Psalms

Building a Life with God (Psalm 127)

What happens when we try to build our lives without God?

Psalm 127 reminds us of the futility of human effort apart from God’s guidance and blessing. It encourages us to depend on Him as the foundation of our work, our families, and our security.

Key Verse:
“Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain.” – Psalm 127:1 (ESV)

Background Context:
Psalm 127 is one of the Songs of Ascents and is attributed to Solomon. It reflects on the importance of trusting in God’s provision and sovereignty rather than relying on human effort alone. The psalm emphasizes that every aspect of our lives—our work, our families, and our well-being—depends on God’s blessing and involvement.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Psalm 127

A Song of Ascents, of Solomon.

    1Unless the LORD builds the house,
They labor in vain who build it;
Unless the LORD guards the city,
The watchman keeps awake in vain.

      2It is vain for you to rise up early,
To retire late,
To eat the bread of painful labors;
For He gives to His beloved even in his sleep.

      3Behold, children are a gift of the LORD,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.

      4Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one’s youth.

      5How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them;
They will not be ashamed
When they speak with their enemies in the gate.

Reflection on Psalm 127:

  • God as the Builder:
    The psalm begins by declaring that all efforts are in vain unless the Lord is involved (Psalm 127:1). Whether building a house, a career, or a family, success comes only through God’s blessing. Are you inviting God to be the builder and foundation of your life?
  • Security in God’s Care:
    The psalm highlights the futility of watchmen guarding a city if God’s protection is absent (Psalm 127:1-2). True security and peace come from trusting in God, not in human strength or resources. Are you trusting in God for your safety and well-being, or are you relying on your own efforts?
  • Children as a Blessing:
    The latter part of the psalm celebrates children as a heritage and reward from the Lord (Psalm 127:3-5). They are described as arrows in the hands of a warrior, emphasizing their value and potential. Are you recognizing the blessings in your life as gifts from God and stewarding them for His glory?
  • Rest in God’s Provision:
    The psalm contrasts anxious toil with the peace of trusting in God’s provision (Psalm 127:2). God gives rest to those who depend on Him. Are you striving in your own strength, or are you resting in God’s care and provision?

Summary Key Points:

  • God Is the True Builder: All efforts are in vain without His blessing and guidance.
  • True Security Comes from God: Trust in His protection, not your own resources.
  • Children Are a Gift: Recognize and value the blessings God has entrusted to you.
  • Rest in God’s Care: Avoid anxious toil and trust in His provision.
  • Dependence Brings Peace: Surrendering to God’s sovereignty brings lasting fulfillment.

Application:
Reflect on areas of your life where you may be striving without seeking God’s guidance. Surrender your plans to Him and ask Him to be the foundation of all you do. Trust in His protection and provision, and take time to rest in His care. Celebrate the blessings He has given you and commit to stewarding them for His purposes.

Closing Prayer:
Heavenly Father, thank You for being the true builder and protector of our lives. Help us to surrender our plans to You and depend on Your guidance and provision. Teach us to value the blessings You have given us and to trust in Your care. May we rest in Your peace and live lives that bring You glory. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Children, Parenting, Traditions / Holidays

A Heartfelt Reflection on Family Traditions (The Parable of Two Fathers)

In the heart of a town, two fathers stood as neighbors, each with a son, driven by a common desire to honor God. Both attended church faithfully, praying and reading the Bible with their sons. Yet, their paths diverged, shaping the destinies of their families.

The first father, unwavering in his commitment to God, faced mockery for standing firm in his convictions. He refused to lie to his son, and his son noticed.  His son observed this courage, and the father’s honesty resonated deeply. He instilled a belief in one God, teaching that God defines good and bad, and sin carries consequences.

As the son grew older, he sometimes wondered how he could know Jesus was real since he could not “see” him or “touch” him but accepted it because his father was always honest with him. He learned to stand for Jesus even when it was hard, because he learned by watching his father.

In contrast, the second father clung to generational traditions, content in a comfortable existence. He blended truths with fanciful tales, weaving a web of make-believe characters into his son’s life. It felt comfortable, most of his friends and neighbors lived their lives in a similar manner so there was no conflict.

He did not feel that God really cared that much about some areas of how he and his family led their daily lives. He told his son that Jesus was the way to God, but he also liked to tell his son seemingly harmless made-up stories about make believe characters. He enjoyed telling his son about the tooth fairy, Easter bunny, and of course Santa Claus. He continued the stories for many years until finally his son would learn on his own that each story was not true.

The father even went out of his way to provide false evidence that the stories were true… like money under the pillow for a tooth or telling his son that the bunny hid the eggs and brought him a basket, and of course having lots of presents at Christmas… all from Santa.  He even ate cookies and milk on behalf of Santa. After all, it’s just a bit of fun. What harm can it do?

Yet, as his son grew older, the line between reality and fiction blurred, leaving him with doubts about Jesus and the Bible. The son sometimes wondered how he could know Jesus was real since he could not “see” him or “touch” him. He loved his father, but throughout his life his father had lied to him and even gone out of his way to fake evidence in many make-believe characters. He could not help but wonder if Jesus and the Bible were like the rest of the made-up stories and he had many doubts.

Reflections on Tradition and Truth

Let’s pause and consider the stories we tell our children. Are we unknowingly weaving a web of lies, disrupting the authenticity of our faith journey? Beyond the potential mistrust caused by falsehoods, we must scrutinize the deeper impact of our traditions.

Take the story of Santa Claus—a representative example. It shifts the focus of Christmas from giving to receiving, emphasizing deserving gifts based on behavior. The supposed accountability for “bad” actions becomes inconsequential, undermining the idea of consequences for wrong choices. Furthermore, Santa, an all-knowing and eternal figure, can be seen as a subtle replacement for God.

Christmas Traditions and Their Underlying Messages

The story of Santa, widely accepted and celebrated, inadvertently draws attention away from God, causing confusion and doubt. As Christians, it’s crucial to question whether our cherished traditions align with God’s message. It’s not merely about lying to our children but about the values and lessons embedded in these stories.

Trying to tell a child Christmas is about Jesus, but then overwhelming them with presents and made-up stories about Santa is like telling a child to eat a carrot and then putting in front of them a table full of cookies, brownies, cakes, and ice cream. At the very least, the table of desserts is a major distraction. In most cases, the children will remember the desserts long after they forget the carrot.

After spending years lying to children and convincing them that Santa is real, even when they start to recognize it and ask questions, we will then tell them it was all in fun… but trust me about Jesus.

Even Atheists Like Santa

Santa is in fact accepted around the world by many because he is absolutely not pointing to God, but rather distracting attention away from God or replacing God completely. Christians and non-Christians alike accept him. In one example, Santa’s picture was used as a spokesman for a billboard campaign by atheists basically saying we can be good without need of God. “Go ahead and skip church! Just be good for goodness sake.” (link to article here). [How an atheist can define “good” while claiming there is no God is an interesting conversation for another day.]

The Emotional Challenge of Change

Recognizing the need for change is emotional and challenging. Yet, standing for Christ above all else, even within our families, is a commitment Christ himself acknowledged would stir discord. (Matthew 10:32-39)

Choose God’s Ways Over Man-Made Traditions

In the spirit of self-reflection, challenge yourself to objectively evaluate your traditions. Seek God’s truth in His word and apply it in your life. Remember, God desires His people to be holy and righteous, placing Him above all else.

A Call to Prayerful Action

May this reflection be an awakening, prompting prayerful consideration. We encourage you to seek God’s guidance, bravely stepping into a journey where His ways triumph over the traditions of man.

Closing Challenge: Put God First

As we conclude, remember the words of Jesus—choose God over familial bonds, prioritizing Christ above all. For in giving up our lives for Him, we truly find life.

God wants his people to be holy (set apart for God’s use) and righteous (living according to God’s commands rather than the world’s). He wants us to put Him first, above everything else.

Challenge yourself to objectively evaluate your traditions and seek first the kingdom of God. Do not dismiss this quickly but rather prayerfully seek God to show you the truth of His word and how to apply it in your life.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Children, Doubt / Lacking Faith, Faith / Trusting God, Humility, Pride

Childlike Faith: Receiving the Kingdom with Humility and Trust (Luke 18:15-17)

What does it mean to have childlike faith?

In Luke 18:15-17, Jesus shows us the value of a simple, trusting heart that approaches God with humility, just like a child.

Key Verse: “Truly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it.” – Luke 18:17 (ESV)

Background Context: In Luke 18:15-17, parents are bringing their children to Jesus so that He might bless them. However, the disciples try to stop them, likely thinking that Jesus had more important matters to attend to. But Jesus responds by welcoming the children and teaching a profound lesson: unless we receive the kingdom of God like a child, we cannot enter it. This passage invites us to examine the nature of our faith and our relationship with God. Jesus highlights the importance of humility, trust, and openness—qualities often seen in children—as essential to entering His kingdom.

(Summarized and continued after scripture)

Luke 18:15-17

    15And they were bringing even their babies to Him so that He would touch them, but when the disciples saw it, they began rebuking them. 16But Jesus called for them, saying, “Permit the children to come to Me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. 17“Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child will not enter it at all.”

Reflection on Luke 18:15-17:

  • Jesus Welcomes the Children: The disciples’ initial reaction to the children being brought to Jesus was to rebuke the parents (Luke 18:15). They may have thought that Jesus was too busy or too important to be interrupted by children. But Jesus’ response is completely different—He not only welcomes the children but also uses them as an example of how we should approach God. Jesus values every person, regardless of their age or status, and He emphasizes the importance of caring for and blessing even the “least” in society. This challenges us to reconsider how we view others and reminds us that everyone is valuable in God’s eyes.
  • Childlike Humility and Trust: Jesus says that to enter the kingdom of God, we must receive it “like a child” (Luke 18:17). Children are naturally dependent on others for their needs. They trust, they are open, and they are humble. In the same way, God calls us to approach Him with humility and trust, recognizing that we are dependent on His grace and provision. We cannot earn our way into the kingdom of God through our achievements or status. Instead, we are called to come to God with open hearts, ready to receive His love and grace, just as a child would. This is a reminder that faith is not about self-sufficiency but about surrendering to God’s care and trusting in His goodness.
  • A Heart Ready to Receive: Children are receptive—they are willing to receive gifts and trust in the goodness of those who care for them. When Jesus speaks of receiving the kingdom of God like a child, He is emphasizing the importance of having a heart that is open and willing to receive what God offers. Sometimes, as adults, we can become guarded, skeptical, or overly self-reliant, thinking that we must work for or prove ourselves worthy of God’s love. But Jesus teaches us that the kingdom of God is a gift to be received, not earned. We are invited to come to God with a heart that is ready to receive His grace, love, and direction.
  • Entering the Kingdom of God: Jesus’ statement in verse 17 is striking: “whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it.” This is not just a suggestion—it’s a requirement for entering God’s kingdom. To receive the kingdom of God like a child means to let go of our pride, self-reliance, and illusions of control. It means acknowledging that we are dependent on God for everything—our salvation, our daily needs, and our purpose in life. Jesus calls us to a relationship with Him that is built on trust and dependence, not on our own efforts or merit.
  • The Simplicity of Faith: Children often have a simple, straightforward faith. They are not burdened by complicated questions or doubts; they simply trust. While it is natural for our faith to grow deeper as we mature, Jesus reminds us that at the heart of our relationship with God should be a simple, trusting faith. A faith that says, “I trust You, God, even when I don’t understand.” This kind of faith allows us to experience the fullness of life in the kingdom of God, where we rely on His love, provision, and guidance each day.

Summary Key Points:

  • Jesus Welcomes Everyone: Jesus values and welcomes even the smallest and most vulnerable, reminding us that everyone is precious in God’s eyes.
  • Childlike Humility and Trust: We are called to approach God with the humility and trust of a child, recognizing our dependence on Him and His grace.
  • A Heart Ready to Receive: Like children, we are to have hearts that are open and ready to receive God’s gifts—especially His kingdom, which is a gift of grace.
  • Entering the Kingdom Requires Humility: Jesus teaches that we must receive the kingdom of God like a child—letting go of pride and self-sufficiency and coming to Him in faith and dependence.
  • The Simplicity of Faith: A childlike faith is marked by trust and simplicity, allowing us to rest in God’s care and experience His kingdom in our daily lives.

Application: Take time to reflect on your own relationship with God—are you approaching Him with the humility, trust, and openness of a child? Are there areas where you’ve been relying on your own strength or accomplishments instead of trusting in God’s grace? Consider how you can cultivate a childlike faith, one that is simple and trusting, knowing that God is a good Father who cares for you. Let go of the desire to control or earn your way into God’s favor, and instead come to Him with an open heart, ready to receive His love and guidance.

Closing Prayer: Heavenly Father, we come to You with humble hearts, recognizing our need for Your grace and mercy. Teach us to approach You with the trust and openness of a child, knowing that we depend on You for everything. Help us to let go of pride and self-sufficiency, and instead receive Your kingdom as a gift. Give us a simple, trusting faith that rests in Your love and care. Thank You for welcoming us into Your family. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Children, Father / Yahweh, Parenting, Traditions / Holidays

Guided by YHWH: The Path of a Good Father

Fatherhood is a sacred calling, reflecting YHWH’s own relationship with His people. As we celebrate Father’s Day, it’s essential to recognize the qualities that define a good father—qualities rooted deeply in biblical teachings. These guidelines help fathers align with Christ’s example, positioning YHWH at the forefront of their lives and setting a standard of spiritual leadership within the family.

Biblical Foundations for Fatherhood:
The scripture provides clear and practical guidance for fathers, emphasizing the balance between discipline and compassion, leadership, and service.

  1. Spiritual Leadership and Discipline:
    • Ephesians 6:4 advises fathers not to provoke their children to anger but to raise them with discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord, fostering a nurturing yet guiding environment.
    • Proverbs 22:6 underscores the long-term impact of instilling the right values in children, ensuring they carry these teachings into adulthood.
  2. Compassion and Understanding:
    • Psalm 103:13 compares a father’s compassion to that of the LORD, highlighting the depth of understanding and care fathers should aspire to embody.
    • Colossians 3:21 warns against exacerbating children, which could discourage them, advocating instead for encouragement and empathy.
  3. Valuing and Cherishing Children:
    • Psalm 127:3-5 beautifully illustrates children as blessings from the LORD, describing them as arrows in the hands of a warrior—valuable and impactful.
  4. Leading by Example:
    • Luke 11:11-12 uses metaphorical language to discuss a father’s responsibility to provide appropriately for his children, ensuring their needs are met with wisdom and kindness.
    • Joshua 24:14-15 serves as a powerful declaration of serving the LORD faithfully, setting a profound example for the household and reinforcing the role of a father as a leader committed to righteousness.

Application:
These scriptures not only define the traditional role of fathers but also encourage modern dads to see their responsibility as a divine mandate. Fathers are called to reflect YHWH’s character, showing grace, strength, and wisdom as they guide their families.

Call to Action:

  1. Reflect and Engage: Spend time this Father’s Day reflecting on the scriptures mentioned. Consider how these teachings can influence your approach to fatherhood.
  2. Seek Growth: Continually seek ways to grow in spiritual leadership. Join or form a fathers’ group in your community or church to support and encourage each other in your parenting journey.
  3. Spread Wisdom: Share insights about biblical fatherhood with other fathers. Encourage one another with stories of success and lessons learned.
  4. Celebrate and Appreciate: Take today to celebrate the fathers in your life—your own father, friends, and community members. Acknowledge their efforts and sacrifices in striving to embody the qualities of a good father.

Closing Prayer:
Heavenly Father, we thank You for the model of fatherhood You provide through Your Word and Your own example. Bless the fathers who strive each day to lead and love according to Your principles. Strengthen them, grant them wisdom, and fill them with Your compassion. Help them to be beacons of Your light within their families and communities, reflecting Your love and righteousness. In Your holy name, we pray. Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.