Category Archives: Parenting

Children, Envy / Jealousy / Coveting, Faith / Trusting God, Humility, Parenting, Wise

When Favoritism Fractures a Family (Genesis 37:1–11)

Have you ever seen how a parent’s choices — even unintentional ones — can quietly shape resentment, insecurity, and division within a family?

Key Verse:
“Israel loved Joseph more than all his sons… and he made him a varicolored tunic.” —Genesis 37:3 NASB

Background Context:
Genesis 37 opens a new major section in Genesis — the story of Joseph. Joseph is seventeen years old, the firstborn son of Rachel, the wife Jacob loved most. Jacob openly favors Joseph over his other sons and expresses this favoritism by giving him a special robe.

Joseph also receives dreams from God that indicate future authority and prominence, but he shares them without discernment. His brothers respond with jealousy and hatred. What begins as favoritism and immature speech quickly grows into deep family division.

This chapter does not arise in isolation. The dysfunction we see here is rooted in earlier choices — particularly Jacob’s marriage to multiple wives and the long-standing pattern of favoritism that already fractured his family once before.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Genesis 37:1–11

Joseph’s Dream

      1Now Jacob lived in the land where his father had sojourned, in the land of Canaan. 2These are the records of the generations of Jacob.
Joseph, when seventeen years of age, was pasturing the flock with his brothers while he was still a youth, along with the sons of Bilhah and the sons of Zilpah, his father’s wives. And Joseph brought back a bad report about them to their father. 3Now Israel loved Joseph more than all his sons, because he was the son of his old age; and he made him a varicolored tunic. 4His brothers saw that their father loved him more than all his brothers; and so they hated him and could not speak to him on friendly terms.

      5Then Joseph had a dream, and when he told it to his brothers, they hated him even more. 6He said to them, “Please listen to this dream which I have had; 7for behold, we were binding sheaves in the field, and lo, my sheaf rose up and also stood erect; and behold, your sheaves gathered around and bowed down to my sheaf.” 8Then his brothers said to him, “Are you actually going to reign over us? Or are you really going to rule over us?” So they hated him even more for his dreams and for his words.

      9Now he had still another dream, and related it to his brothers, and said, “Lo, I have had still another dream; and behold, the sun and the moon and eleven stars were bowing down to me.” 10He related it to his father and to his brothers; and his father rebuked him and said to him, “What is this dream that you have had? Shall I and your mother and your brothers actually come to bow ourselves down before you to the ground?” 11His brothers were jealous of him, but his father kept the saying in mind.

Reflection on Genesis 37:1–11:
Joseph’s story begins not with betrayal, but with favoritism. Scripture is clear: Jacob loved Joseph more than his other sons. This was not Joseph’s fault — it was his father’s failure.

Jacob had lived this pattern before. His own parents favored different sons — Isaac favored Esau, Rebekah favored Jacob — and that favoritism nearly destroyed their family. Now, the same sin resurfaces in the next generation.

The root problem goes even deeper. Jacob’s family structure itself was broken. God never designed marriage to include multiple wives, yet Jacob took four women — Leah, Rachel, Bilhah, and Zilpah. The result was predictable: rivalry, jealousy, insecurity, and division among the children. When a family is formed through competition rather than covenant unity, the wounds echo for generations.

Joseph’s robe becomes a symbol — not just of favor, but of inequality. It publicly announces Jacob’s preference and quietly tells the other sons that they are less loved. This kind of favoritism poisons family relationships, breeding resentment and bitterness long before open conflict erupts.

Joseph’s dreams are from God, yet Joseph lacks wisdom in sharing them. He speaks truth without humility or discernment, unaware that timing and tone matter. God’s calling on our lives does not excuse immaturity or insensitivity.

This passage reminds us that God’s plans often begin in broken environments. Joseph’s future deliverance of many lives will come through a deeply flawed family. God’s sovereignty is not threatened by human failure — but human failure still brings real pain.

Genesis 37:1–11 shows us how unchecked favoritism, poor family leadership, and lack of wisdom can sow seeds of jealousy that later grow into devastating consequences.

Application:

  • Reject favoritism. Parents must guard against showing preference, which damages trust and unity.

  • Learn from past patterns. Sin that is not addressed often repeats across generations.

  • Value God’s design for family. God’s structure brings peace; deviation invites conflict.

  • Speak with wisdom. Even God-given truth must be shared with humility and discernment.

  • Address jealousy early. Bitterness grows when ignored.

  • Trust God in broken beginnings. He can still accomplish His purposes despite human failure.

Closing Prayer:
Father, thank You for Your honesty in Scripture, showing both human weakness and divine faithfulness. Help me learn from the mistakes of those who came before me. Guard my heart from favoritism, pride, and careless words. Teach me to lead my family with wisdom, humility, and fairness. Where brokenness exists, bring healing, and let Your purposes prevail even through imperfect people. In Yeshua’s name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Children, Parenting, Traditions / Holidays

A Heartfelt Reflection on Family Traditions (The Parable of Two Fathers)

In the heart of a town, two fathers stood as neighbors, each with a son, driven by a common desire to honor God. Both attended church faithfully, praying and reading the Bible with their sons. Yet, their paths diverged, shaping the destinies of their families.

The first father, unwavering in his commitment to God, faced mockery for standing firm in his convictions. He refused to lie to his son, and his son noticed.  His son observed this courage, and the father’s honesty resonated deeply. He instilled a belief in one God, teaching that God defines good and bad, and sin carries consequences.

As the son grew older, he sometimes wondered how he could know Jesus was real since he could not “see” him or “touch” him but accepted it because his father was always honest with him. He learned to stand for Jesus even when it was hard, because he learned by watching his father.

In contrast, the second father clung to generational traditions, content in a comfortable existence. He blended truths with fanciful tales, weaving a web of make-believe characters into his son’s life. It felt comfortable, most of his friends and neighbors lived their lives in a similar manner so there was no conflict.

He did not feel that God really cared that much about some areas of how he and his family led their daily lives. He told his son that Jesus was the way to God, but he also liked to tell his son seemingly harmless made-up stories about make believe characters. He enjoyed telling his son about the tooth fairy, Easter bunny, and of course Santa Claus. He continued the stories for many years until finally his son would learn on his own that each story was not true.

The father even went out of his way to provide false evidence that the stories were true… like money under the pillow for a tooth or telling his son that the bunny hid the eggs and brought him a basket, and of course having lots of presents at Christmas… all from Santa.  He even ate cookies and milk on behalf of Santa. After all, it’s just a bit of fun. What harm can it do?

Yet, as his son grew older, the line between reality and fiction blurred, leaving him with doubts about Jesus and the Bible. The son sometimes wondered how he could know Jesus was real since he could not “see” him or “touch” him. He loved his father, but throughout his life his father had lied to him and even gone out of his way to fake evidence in many make-believe characters. He could not help but wonder if Jesus and the Bible were like the rest of the made-up stories and he had many doubts.

Reflections on Tradition and Truth

Let’s pause and consider the stories we tell our children. Are we unknowingly weaving a web of lies, disrupting the authenticity of our faith journey? Beyond the potential mistrust caused by falsehoods, we must scrutinize the deeper impact of our traditions.

Take the story of Santa Claus—a representative example. It shifts the focus of Christmas from giving to receiving, emphasizing deserving gifts based on behavior. The supposed accountability for “bad” actions becomes inconsequential, undermining the idea of consequences for wrong choices. Furthermore, Santa, an all-knowing and eternal figure, can be seen as a subtle replacement for God.

Christmas Traditions and Their Underlying Messages

The story of Santa, widely accepted and celebrated, inadvertently draws attention away from God, causing confusion and doubt. As Christians, it’s crucial to question whether our cherished traditions align with God’s message. It’s not merely about lying to our children but about the values and lessons embedded in these stories.

Trying to tell a child Christmas is about Jesus, but then overwhelming them with presents and made-up stories about Santa is like telling a child to eat a carrot and then putting in front of them a table full of cookies, brownies, cakes, and ice cream. At the very least, the table of desserts is a major distraction. In most cases, the children will remember the desserts long after they forget the carrot.

After spending years lying to children and convincing them that Santa is real, even when they start to recognize it and ask questions, we will then tell them it was all in fun… but trust me about Jesus.

Even Atheists Like Santa

Santa is in fact accepted around the world by many because he is absolutely not pointing to God, but rather distracting attention away from God or replacing God completely. Christians and non-Christians alike accept him. In one example, Santa’s picture was used as a spokesman for a billboard campaign by atheists basically saying we can be good without need of God. “Go ahead and skip church! Just be good for goodness sake.” (link to article here). [How an atheist can define “good” while claiming there is no God is an interesting conversation for another day.]

The Emotional Challenge of Change

Recognizing the need for change is emotional and challenging. Yet, standing for Christ above all else, even within our families, is a commitment Christ himself acknowledged would stir discord. (Matthew 10:32-39)

Choose God’s Ways Over Man-Made Traditions

In the spirit of self-reflection, challenge yourself to objectively evaluate your traditions. Seek God’s truth in His word and apply it in your life. Remember, God desires His people to be holy and righteous, placing Him above all else.

A Call to Prayerful Action

May this reflection be an awakening, prompting prayerful consideration. We encourage you to seek God’s guidance, bravely stepping into a journey where His ways triumph over the traditions of man.

Closing Challenge: Put God First

As we conclude, remember the words of Jesus—choose God over familial bonds, prioritizing Christ above all. For in giving up our lives for Him, we truly find life.

God wants his people to be holy (set apart for God’s use) and righteous (living according to God’s commands rather than the world’s). He wants us to put Him first, above everything else.

Challenge yourself to objectively evaluate your traditions and seek first the kingdom of God. Do not dismiss this quickly but rather prayerfully seek God to show you the truth of His word and how to apply it in your life.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Children, Compassionate, Faithful, Greed, Idols / False Gods, Intgegrity / Honesty, Lying / Deceiving, Parenting, Protector / Deliverer

God Our Defender: Faithfulness Amid Deception (Genesis 31:22-55)

God can work through anyone — even those who don’t follow Him — to protect His people and accomplish His will.

Have you ever faced a situation where you were treated unfairly, yet later saw that God had been working behind the scenes to protect and guide you?

Key Verse:
“It is in my power to do you harm, but the God of your father spoke to me last night, saying, ‘Be careful not to speak either good or bad to Jacob.’” —Genesis 31:29 NASB

Background Context:
After Jacob secretly left Haran with his family and possessions, Laban discovered his departure and pursued him for seven days. Before Laban could confront Jacob, however, God appeared to him in a dream, warning him not to harm Jacob or even speak harshly against him. This is remarkable because Laban was not a godly man — he was an idol-worshiper and deceiver. Yet even through this ungodly man, God communicated clearly to ensure Jacob’s safety.

When Laban caught up with Jacob, he accused him of deceit and theft. Jacob responded truthfully, defending his integrity and recounting twenty years of loyal service under Laban’s constant mistreatment. After Laban’s fruitless search for the stolen idols (which Rachel had hidden), the two men made a covenant of peace, setting up a heap of stones as a witness between them.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Genesis 31:22-55

Laban Pursues Jacob

      22When it was told Laban on the third day that Jacob had fled, 23then he took his kinsmen with him and pursued him a distance of seven days’ journey, and he overtook him in the hill country of Gilead. 24God came to Laban the Aramean in a dream of the night and said to him, “Be careful that you do not speak to Jacob either good or bad.”

      25Laban caught up with Jacob. Now Jacob had pitched his tent in the hill country, and Laban with his kinsmen camped in the hill country of Gilead. 26Then Laban said to Jacob, “What have you done by deceiving me and carrying away my daughters like captives of the sword? 27“Why did you flee secretly and deceive me, and did not tell me so that I might have sent you away with joy and with songs, with timbrel and with lyre; 28and did not allow me to kiss my sons and my daughters? Now you have done foolishly. 29“It is in my power to do you harm, but the God of your father spoke to me last night, saying, ‘Be careful not to speak either good or bad to Jacob.’ 30“Now you have indeed gone away because you longed greatly for your father’s house; but why did you steal my gods?” 31Then Jacob replied to Laban, “Because I was afraid, for I thought that you would take your daughters from me by force. 32“The one with whom you find your gods shall not live; in the presence of our kinsmen point out what is yours among my belongings and take it for yourself.” For Jacob did not know that Rachel had stolen them.

      33So Laban went into Jacob’s tent and into Leah’s tent and into the tent of the two maids, but he did not find them. Then he went out of Leah’s tent and entered Rachel’s tent. 34Now Rachel had taken the household idols and put them in the camel’s saddle, and she sat on them. And Laban felt through all the tent but did not find them. 35She said to her father, “Let not my lord be angry that I cannot rise before you, for the manner of women is upon me.” So he searched but did not find the household idols.

      36Then Jacob became angry and contended with Laban; and Jacob said to Laban, “What is my transgression? What is my sin that you have hotly pursued me? 37“Though you have felt through all my goods, what have you found of all your household goods? Set it here before my kinsmen and your kinsmen, that they may decide between us two. 38“These twenty years I have been with you; your ewes and your female goats have not miscarried, nor have I eaten the rams of your flocks. 39“That which was torn of beasts I did not bring to you; I bore the loss of it myself. You required it of my hand whether stolen by day or stolen by night. 40“Thus I was: by day the heat consumed me and the frost by night, and my sleep fled from my eyes. 41“These twenty years I have been in your house; I served you fourteen years for your two daughters and six years for your flock, and you changed my wages ten times. 42“If the God of my father, the God of Abraham, and the fear of Isaac, had not been for me, surely now you would have sent me away empty-handed. God has seen my affliction and the toil of my hands, so He rendered judgment last night.”

The Covenant of Mizpah

      43Then Laban replied to Jacob, “The daughters are my daughters, and the children are my children, and the flocks are my flocks, and all that you see is mine. But what can I do this day to these my daughters or to their children whom they have borne? 44“So now come, let us make a covenant, you and I, and let it be a witness between you and me.” 45Then Jacob took a stone and set it up as a pillar. 46Jacob said to his kinsmen, “Gather stones.” So they took stones and made a heap, and they ate there by the heap. 47Now Laban called it Jegar-sahadutha, but Jacob called it Galeed. 48Laban said, “This heap is a witness between you and me this day.” Therefore it was named Galeed, 49and Mizpah, for he said, “May the LORD watch between you and me when we are absent one from the other. 50“If you mistreat my daughters, or if you take wives besides my daughters, although no man is with us, see, God is witness between you and me.” 51Laban said to Jacob, “Behold this heap and behold the pillar which I have set between you and me. 52“This heap is a witness, and the pillar is a witness, that I will not pass by this heap to you for harm, and you will not pass by this heap and this pillar to me, for harm. 53“The God of Abraham and the God of Nahor, the God of their father, judge between us.” So Jacob swore by the fear of his father Isaac. 54Then Jacob offered a sacrifice on the mountain, and called his kinsmen to the meal; and they ate the meal and spent the night on the mountain. 55Early in the morning Laban arose, and kissed his sons and his daughters and blessed them. Then Laban departed and returned to his place.

Reflection on Genesis 31:22–55:
One of the first lessons in this passage is that God is perfectly capable of speaking through anyone — even non-believers — to accomplish His purposes. Laban’s dream is proof of God’s sovereignty. Though Laban was deceitful, greedy, and idolatrous, God used him as an instrument of protection for Jacob.

Notice how Laban referred to God: “the God of your father.” He did not call Him his God. Laban knew of God’s power but never submitted to His authority. This shows a dangerous truth — knowing about God is not the same as knowing God.

Laban’s hypocrisy is also revealing. He, who had deceived Jacob repeatedly and changed his wages ten times, was quick to cry foul when he felt deceived. This kind of self-centered morality — measuring right and wrong by “How does it affect me?” instead of God’s standard — is still common today. God’s people must be different. We are called to measure our actions by God’s Word, not by convenience or self-interest.

Rachel’s theft of her father’s idols also highlights a tragic lesson. She clung to false gods instead of trusting the true God of her husband. The deception she learned from her father’s example took root in her own life. A family raised in dishonesty easily repeats those patterns — and clever deception, while impressive to the world, is never admired by God.

Jacob, however, continues to grow in righteousness. When confronted, he didn’t lie or make excuses. He explained why he left secretly, acknowledged God’s protection, and boldly declared his innocence. After enduring twenty years of injustice, Jacob could confidently say, “God has seen my affliction and the toil of my hands, and He rendered judgment last night.” (v.42)

This is the heart of the story: Jacob’s integrity and God’s faithfulness. Laban’s greed and deceit could not overcome God’s protection. Even through hardship, Jacob’s honest work and trust in God led to peace and blessing.

For us today, the lesson is clear — God’s protection doesn’t mean life will be easy. Jacob suffered unfair treatment, exhaustion, and fear, yet through it all, he found that God’s hand never left him. God does not promise a life free of struggle, but He does promise His presence in it. And His presence is always enough.

Application:

  • Trust God’s sovereignty. He can work through anyone or anything — even unbelievers — to accomplish His purposes and protect His people.

  • Hold to God’s standard, not your own. Don’t fall into Laban’s hypocrisy of calling things “wrong” only when they hurt you.

  • Work hard and live with integrity. Like Jacob, let your faithfulness speak louder than your defense.

  • Let go of false securities. Don’t cling to “idols” — whether literal, emotional, or material — for comfort or control.

  • Draw nearer to God in difficulty. He does not promise ease, but He promises His presence, protection, and ultimate justice.

If you are facing unfair treatment, family tension, or a situation that feels unjust, take courage. God sees. He knows. And He can defend you in ways you could never arrange yourself.

Closing Prayer:
Father, thank You that You are sovereign over all people and circumstances. Even when I face injustice or conflict, I know You see and protect me. Help me to live with integrity, to measure my actions by Your truth, and to trust You when others mistreat me. Keep me from hypocrisy and idolatry, and teach me to find peace in Your presence. Thank You for being my defender and my refuge. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Blessed, Faith / Trusting God, Marriage, Parenting, Submitted / Servant

Walking Away to Walk in God’s Will (Genesis 28:1–9)

Sometimes following God means walking away from what feels familiar or safe.

Have you ever had to leave behind comfort or approval in order to obey God?

Key Verse:
“So Isaac sent Jacob away, and he went to Paddan-aram to Laban, son of Bethuel the Aramean, the brother of Rebekah, the mother of Jacob and Esau.” —Genesis 28:5 NASB

Background Context:
After Jacob deceived his father to obtain the blessing meant for Esau, tension filled the household. Rebekah, fearing Esau’s anger, urged Isaac to send Jacob away to find a wife from among her relatives in Paddan-aram. Isaac, now seeing God’s hand on Jacob, reaffirmed the covenant blessing originally given to Abraham — that his descendants would become a great people and inherit the land God had promised. In contrast, Esau, noticing his parents’ disapproval of his Canaanite wives, tried to fix things in his own strength by marrying Ishmael’s daughter. His attempt was outwardly religious but inwardly disconnected from obedience to God’s will.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Genesis 28:1–9

Jacob Is Sent Away

      1So Isaac called Jacob and blessed him and charged him, and said to him, “You shall not take a wife from the daughters of Canaan. 2“Arise, go to Paddan-aram, to the house of Bethuel your mother’s father; and from there take to yourself a wife from the daughters of Laban your mother’s brother. 3“May God Almighty bless you and make you fruitful and multiply you, that you may become a company of peoples. 4“May He also give you the blessing of Abraham, to you and to your descendants with you, that you may possess the land of your sojournings, which God gave to Abraham.” 5Then Isaac sent Jacob away, and he went to Paddan-aram to Laban, son of Bethuel the Aramean, the brother of Rebekah, the mother of Jacob and Esau.

      6Now Esau saw that Isaac had blessed Jacob and sent him away to Paddan-aram to take to himself a wife from there, and that when he blessed him he charged him, saying, “You shall not take a wife from the daughters of Canaan,” 7and that Jacob had obeyed his father and his mother and had gone to Paddan-aram. 8So Esau saw that the daughters of Canaan displeased his father Isaac; 9and Esau went to Ishmael, and married, besides the wives that he had, Mahalath the daughter of Ishmael, Abraham’s son, the sister of Nebaioth.

Reflection on Genesis 28:1–9:
This passage shows two very different responses to God’s direction. Jacob, though flawed, obeys when called to go. His journey away from home marks the beginning of God’s transforming work in his life. Esau, on the other hand, tries to earn favor through appearance — making a show of faith without true submission to God’s plan.

Obedience often means trusting God beyond what we can see. Jacob left the comfort of his home and family, not knowing what awaited him, but he stepped forward under the blessing of his father and the promise of God. True obedience doesn’t always feel secure, but it leads to lasting blessing.

Esau’s example reminds us that actions done for approval, not devotion, fall short. God desires a heart aligned with His will, not a checklist of appearances.

Application:
Think of an area in your life where obedience may require letting go of something familiar — a habit, a relationship, or even the approval of others. Ask God to give you the courage to walk in His direction, trusting that His promises will follow your obedience. Don’t settle for superficial gestures of faith; pursue the path that aligns with His covenant truth.

Closing Prayer:
Father, thank You for reminding me that obedience is the pathway to blessing. Help me to follow Your leading even when it means stepping away from what feels comfortable or familiar. Keep my heart sincere and my motives pure, that I may walk in Your will and trust Your promises. Teach me to seek Your approval above all else. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Father / Yahweh, Parenting, Traditions / Holidays

Yahweh Is A Good Father: Let Us Honor Him

As we celebrate Father’s Day, it is good to also focus on our Creator and Father in addition to celebrating good earthy fathers. Take time to prayerfully and thoughtfully reflect on who He is and what He has already done for You.

Respect and honor who God is. Take a few moments and be still before God. Contemplate the character of God:

  • The Great I Am
  • Creator of All
  • All Knowing (omniscient)
  • All Powerful (omnipotent)
  • Present In All Places at All Times (omnipresent)
  • Unchanging (immutable)
  • Eternal (without beginning or end)
  • Incapable of Making a Mistake (flawless)
  • Infinite (without limit or boundaries)
  • Holy (worthy of devotion as one perfect in goodness)
  • Just (behaving according to what is morally right and fair)
  • The Beginning and the End (Alpha and Omega)

In Ephesians  1:18-19 Paul prays “…that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened, so that you will know what is the hope of His calling, what are the riches of the glory of His inheritance in the saints, 19and what is the surpassing greatness of His power toward us who believe.”

Reflect on the greatness of God’s power toward you as God the Father. He is Father, Provider, Shelter, and Protector.

Honor and glorify His name. God’s name is to be separated from the world. To do this, we must separate from the world and focus on God. Focus on the Biblical names for God.

Focus on God’s character, praise Him and be thankful. His character should be reflected in our character.

  • Compassionate
  • Gracious
  • Humble
  • Pure (in body and mind)
  • Merciful
  • Giving (in time and resources)
  • Slow to anger / Patient
  • Filled with love
  • Truthful
  • Forgiving
  • Kind
  • Faithful
  • Wise
  • Servant’s heart
  • Disciplined (self-control)
  • Joyful
  • Holy (set apart from sin; set apart for God’s purpose)
  • Just (e.g. justice)

Consider picking one or more of God’s characteristics, starting with the one you understand the least, and study its meaning including study of application in scriptures. This activity will renew your mind in that area and, in turn, transform your character to be more like God and our Lord Jesus Christ. After completing this, consider doing for the other character traits over time, perhaps one a week.

I invite you to pray with me:

Father, thank You for being such a wonderful Father. Thank You for caring for me even when I may not understand why I experience certain things that may be difficult. You are worthy of praise. You are the model for the father I should strive to be. Please help me (and/or pray for fathers in your life here) to become more like You. Amen. 

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Children, Father / Yahweh, Parenting, Traditions / Holidays

Guided by YHWH: Embodying the Qualities of a Good Father

Good fathers should pursue after Christ and be spiritual leaders in their family. They should put YHWH first, their wife next and then the children in their priority list and then actually live their lives according to that standard. YHWH has said much about what it means to be a good father. It need not be a mystery.

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Psalm 103:13 Just as a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear Him.

Colossians 3:21 Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.

Psalm 127:3-5 Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; they will not be ashamed when they speak with their enemies in the gate.

Luke 11:11-12 “Now suppose one of you fathers is asked by his son for a fish; he will not give him a snake instead of a fish, will he? “Or if he is asked for an egg, he will not give him a scorpion, will he?

Joshua 24:14-15 “Now, therefore, fear the LORD and serve Him in sincerity and truth; and put away the gods which your fathers served beyond the River and in Egypt, and serve the LORD. 15“If it is disagreeable in your sight to serve the LORD, choose for yourselves today whom you will serve: whether the gods which your fathers served which were beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living; but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”

Perhaps some scripture does not explicitly call out “fathers”, but as in Joshua 24:14-15… he demonstrates the role of a good father as a strong leader for his family committed to serving YHWH even if others refuse to do so. Psalm 127:3-5 shows a good father feels blessed to have received the gift of children.

There are many more such scriptures. I encourage you to do an internet search for “Bible scriptures about good fathers” and invest time to dive deeper. In fact, YHWH gives us the metaphor to think of Him like a Father and He is perfect. Thus we can learn a lot about being a good father from studying how He relates to His people.

Good fathers are not perfect… there is only one perfect Father. On behalf of all those fathers out there who are trying to lead, protect and provide for their families, we appreciate your grace and forgiveness when we get it wrong, and we welcome your prayers and encouragement on our behalf so we may become better and better at what YHWH has called us to be… fathers.

I invite you to pray with me:

Father, thank You for the righteous fathers that are trying to lead their families in Your ways. Please help and encourage fathers to lead and love their families actively. Help fathers reflect Your character traits and be a light to others that do not know You and  godly example to their children. Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

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Adultery / Sex Outside Marriage, Diligent / Hard Worker, Family, Intgegrity / Honesty, Marriage, Parenting, Proverbs (Wisdom & Folly), Sloth / Laziness, Unteachable / Foolish, Wickedness / Evil, Wise

Wisdom for a Life of Integrity (Proverbs 6)

Every action has consequences, and the path of wisdom teaches us to take responsibility, work diligently, speak truthfully, and live with purity.

Key Verse:
“For the commandment is a lamp and the teaching is light; and reproofs for discipline are the way of life.” —Proverbs 6:23 (NASB)

Background Context:
Proverbs 6 is a rich chapter filled with practical counsel from a father to his son. It covers a variety of topics: avoiding foolish financial entanglements, embracing hard work, guarding against wickedness and deceit, honoring parental instruction, and fleeing sexual immorality. These lessons are not random; they flow from a desire to help the reader live wisely and avoid the destruction that comes from foolish choices. This chapter reminds us that God’s instructions aren’t burdens—they’re safeguards, designed to preserve life and character.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Proverbs 6

     Parental Counsel

     1My son, if you have become surety for your neighbor,
Have given a pledge for a stranger,

2If you have been snared with the words of your mouth,
Have been caught with the words of your mouth,

3Do this then, my son, and deliver yourself;
Since you have come into the hand of your neighbor,
Go, humble yourself, and importune your neighbor.

4Give no sleep to your eyes,
Nor slumber to your eyelids;

5Deliver yourself like a gazelle from the hunter’s hand
And like a bird from the hand of the fowler.

6Go to the ant, O sluggard,
Observe her ways and be wise,

7Which, having no chief,
Officer or ruler,

8Prepares her food in the summer
And gathers her provision in the harvest.

9How long will you lie down, O sluggard?
When will you arise from your sleep?

10“A little sleep, a little slumber,
A little folding of the hands to rest”—

11Your poverty will come in like a vagabond
And your need like an armed man.

12A worthless person, a wicked man,
Is the one who walks with a perverse mouth,

13Who winks with his eyes, who signals with his feet,
Who points with his fingers;

14Who with perversity in his heart continually devises evil,
Who spreads strife.

15Therefore his calamity will come suddenly;
Instantly he will be broken and there will be no healing.

16There are six things which the LORD hates,
Yes, seven which are an abomination to Him:

17Haughty eyes, a lying tongue,
And hands that shed innocent blood,

18A heart that devises wicked plans,
Feet that run rapidly to evil,

19A false witness who utters lies,
And one who spreads strife among brothers.

20My son, observe the commandment of your father
And do not forsake the teaching of your mother;

21Bind them continually on your heart;
Tie them around your neck.

22When you walk about, they will guide you;
When you sleep, they will watch over you;
And when you awake, they will talk to you.

23For the commandment is a lamp and the teaching is light;
And reproofs for discipline are the way of life

24To keep you from the evil woman,
From the smooth tongue of the adulteress.

25Do not desire her beauty in your heart,
Nor let her capture you with her eyelids.

26For on account of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread,
And an adulteress hunts for the precious life.

27Can a man take fire in his bosom
And his clothes not be burned?

28Or can a man walk on hot coals
And his feet not be scorched?

29So is the one who goes in to his neighbor’s wife;
Whoever touches her will not go unpunished.

30Men do not despise a thief if he steals
To satisfy himself when he is hungry;

31But when he is found, he must repay sevenfold;
He must give all the substance of his house.

32The one who commits adultery with a woman is lacking sense;
He who would destroy himself does it.

33Wounds and disgrace he will find,
And his reproach will not be blotted out.

34For jealousy enrages a man,
And he will not spare in the day of vengeance.

35He will not accept any ransom,
Nor will he be satisfied though you give many gifts.

 

Children, Parenting, Traditions / Holidays

A Heartfelt Reflection on Family Traditions (The Parable of Two Fathers)

In the heart of a town, two fathers stood as neighbors, each with a son, driven by a common desire to honor God. Both attended church faithfully, praying and reading the Bible with their sons. Yet, their paths diverged, shaping the destinies of their families.

The first father, unwavering in his commitment to God, faced mockery for standing firm in his convictions. He refused to lie to his son, and his son noticed.  His son observed this courage, and the father’s honesty resonated deeply. He instilled a belief in one God, teaching that God defines good and bad, and sin carries consequences.

As the son grew older, he sometimes wondered how he could know Jesus was real since he could not “see” him or “touch” him but accepted it because his father was always honest with him. He learned to stand for Jesus even when it was hard, because he learned by watching his father.

In contrast, the second father clung to generational traditions, content in a comfortable existence. He blended truths with fanciful tales, weaving a web of make-believe characters into his son’s life. It felt comfortable, most of his friends and neighbors lived their lives in a similar manner so there was no conflict.

He did not feel that God really cared that much about some areas of how he and his family led their daily lives. He told his son that Jesus was the way to God, but he also liked to tell his son seemingly harmless made-up stories about make believe characters. He enjoyed telling his son about the tooth fairy, Easter bunny, and of course Santa Claus. He continued the stories for many years until finally his son would learn on his own that each story was not true.

The father even went out of his way to provide false evidence that the stories were true… like money under the pillow for a tooth or telling his son that the bunny hid the eggs and brought him a basket, and of course having lots of presents at Christmas… all from Santa.  He even ate cookies and milk on behalf of Santa. After all, it’s just a bit of fun. What harm can it do?

Yet, as his son grew older, the line between reality and fiction blurred, leaving him with doubts about Jesus and the Bible. The son sometimes wondered how he could know Jesus was real since he could not “see” him or “touch” him. He loved his father, but throughout his life his father had lied to him and even gone out of his way to fake evidence in many make-believe characters. He could not help but wonder if Jesus and the Bible were like the rest of the made-up stories and he had many doubts.

Reflections on Tradition and Truth

Let’s pause and consider the stories we tell our children. Are we unknowingly weaving a web of lies, disrupting the authenticity of our faith journey? Beyond the potential mistrust caused by falsehoods, we must scrutinize the deeper impact of our traditions.

Take the story of Santa Claus—a representative example. It shifts the focus of Christmas from giving to receiving, emphasizing deserving gifts based on behavior. The supposed accountability for “bad” actions becomes inconsequential, undermining the idea of consequences for wrong choices. Furthermore, Santa, an all-knowing and eternal figure, can be seen as a subtle replacement for God.

Christmas Traditions and Their Underlying Messages

The story of Santa, widely accepted and celebrated, inadvertently draws attention away from God, causing confusion and doubt. As Christians, it’s crucial to question whether our cherished traditions align with God’s message. It’s not merely about lying to our children but about the values and lessons embedded in these stories.

Trying to tell a child Christmas is about Jesus, but then overwhelming them with presents and made-up stories about Santa is like telling a child to eat a carrot and then putting in front of them a table full of cookies, brownies, cakes, and ice cream. At the very least, the table of desserts is a major distraction. In most cases, the children will remember the desserts long after they forget the carrot.

After spending years lying to children and convincing them that Santa is real, even when they start to recognize it and ask questions, we will then tell them it was all in fun… but trust me about Jesus.

Even Atheists Like Santa

Santa is in fact accepted around the world by many because he is absolutely not pointing to God, but rather distracting attention away from God or replacing God completely. Christians and non-Christians alike accept him. In one example, Santa’s picture was used as a spokesman for a billboard campaign by atheists basically saying we can be good without need of God. “Go ahead and skip church! Just be good for goodness sake.” (link to article here). [How an atheist can define “good” while claiming there is no God is an interesting conversation for another day.]

The Emotional Challenge of Change

Recognizing the need for change is emotional and challenging. Yet, standing for Christ above all else, even within our families, is a commitment Christ himself acknowledged would stir discord. (Matthew 10:32-39)

Choose God’s Ways Over Man-Made Traditions

In the spirit of self-reflection, challenge yourself to objectively evaluate your traditions. Seek God’s truth in His word and apply it in your life. Remember, God desires His people to be holy and righteous, placing Him above all else.

A Call to Prayerful Action

May this reflection be an awakening, prompting prayerful consideration. We encourage you to seek God’s guidance, bravely stepping into a journey where His ways triumph over the traditions of man.

Closing Challenge: Put God First

As we conclude, remember the words of Jesus—choose God over familial bonds, prioritizing Christ above all. For in giving up our lives for Him, we truly find life.

God wants his people to be holy (set apart for God’s use) and righteous (living according to God’s commands rather than the world’s). He wants us to put Him first, above everything else.

Challenge yourself to objectively evaluate your traditions and seek first the kingdom of God. Do not dismiss this quickly but rather prayerfully seek God to show you the truth of His word and how to apply it in your life.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Children, Father / Yahweh, Parenting, Traditions / Holidays

Guided by YHWH: The Path of a Good Father

Fatherhood is a sacred calling, reflecting YHWH’s own relationship with His people. As we celebrate Father’s Day, it’s essential to recognize the qualities that define a good father—qualities rooted deeply in biblical teachings. These guidelines help fathers align with Christ’s example, positioning YHWH at the forefront of their lives and setting a standard of spiritual leadership within the family.

Biblical Foundations for Fatherhood:
The scripture provides clear and practical guidance for fathers, emphasizing the balance between discipline and compassion, leadership, and service.

  1. Spiritual Leadership and Discipline:
    • Ephesians 6:4 advises fathers not to provoke their children to anger but to raise them with discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord, fostering a nurturing yet guiding environment.
    • Proverbs 22:6 underscores the long-term impact of instilling the right values in children, ensuring they carry these teachings into adulthood.
  2. Compassion and Understanding:
    • Psalm 103:13 compares a father’s compassion to that of the LORD, highlighting the depth of understanding and care fathers should aspire to embody.
    • Colossians 3:21 warns against exacerbating children, which could discourage them, advocating instead for encouragement and empathy.
  3. Valuing and Cherishing Children:
    • Psalm 127:3-5 beautifully illustrates children as blessings from the LORD, describing them as arrows in the hands of a warrior—valuable and impactful.
  4. Leading by Example:
    • Luke 11:11-12 uses metaphorical language to discuss a father’s responsibility to provide appropriately for his children, ensuring their needs are met with wisdom and kindness.
    • Joshua 24:14-15 serves as a powerful declaration of serving the LORD faithfully, setting a profound example for the household and reinforcing the role of a father as a leader committed to righteousness.

Application:
These scriptures not only define the traditional role of fathers but also encourage modern dads to see their responsibility as a divine mandate. Fathers are called to reflect YHWH’s character, showing grace, strength, and wisdom as they guide their families.

Call to Action:

  1. Reflect and Engage: Spend time this Father’s Day reflecting on the scriptures mentioned. Consider how these teachings can influence your approach to fatherhood.
  2. Seek Growth: Continually seek ways to grow in spiritual leadership. Join or form a fathers’ group in your community or church to support and encourage each other in your parenting journey.
  3. Spread Wisdom: Share insights about biblical fatherhood with other fathers. Encourage one another with stories of success and lessons learned.
  4. Celebrate and Appreciate: Take today to celebrate the fathers in your life—your own father, friends, and community members. Acknowledge their efforts and sacrifices in striving to embody the qualities of a good father.

Closing Prayer:
Heavenly Father, we thank You for the model of fatherhood You provide through Your Word and Your own example. Bless the fathers who strive each day to lead and love according to Your principles. Strengthen them, grant them wisdom, and fill them with Your compassion. Help them to be beacons of Your light within their families and communities, reflecting Your love and righteousness. In Your holy name, we pray. Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

Do you know for sure if you will go to heaven or hell when you die? Are you experiencing in your life the peace and joy of a personal relationship with our Creator and Father? Learn more about salvation through The Message of the Cross.

Children, Parenting, Traditions / Holidays

Celebrating Mothers: Beyond Just One Day a Year

Once a year, the world pauses to say “Thank you, Mom,” often accompanied by gifts and flowers. But what if we chose to live every day with that same spirit of gratitude and respect for mothers? Let’s explore what the Bible teaches us about the enduring role of mothers and how we can honor them not just annually, but every day.

Mother’s Day is a special occasion indeed, but the Bible suggests that honoring our mothers is an ongoing commitment, deeply rooted in love and respect. The scriptures provide us with profound insights into the significance of mothers in our lives, guiding us to appreciate and support them in ways that go far beyond conventional celebrations.

Biblical Guidance on Honoring Mothers: Deuteronomy 5:16 reminds us of the command to honor our parents so that we may prosper and live long in the land given by the Lord. This isn’t just about obedience; it’s about recognizing the foundational role mothers play in our lives.

The Proverbs 31 Woman – A Model of Strength and Devotion: Proverbs 31:13-31 paints a picture of an ideal mother—a hardworking, compassionate, and wise woman who cares deeply for her family and community. From managing a household to extending a hand to the needy, her life is a testament to the power of a godly woman.

Teaching and Guidance: Mothers also play a crucial role in imparting wisdom and moral guidance as seen in Proverbs 6:20-22. They lay down the foundational values that guide their children throughout life.

Joy and Rejoicing: Children are called to live righteously, bringing joy to their mothers, as highlighted in Proverbs 23:22-25. True joy for a mother comes not from material gifts but from seeing her children lead lives of integrity and kindness.

A Mother’s Love: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 isn’t just about romantic love; it’s a blueprint for the kind of love that should flow in families, especially from and towards mothers. Patience, kindness, and perseverance in love are marks of true affection and respect.

Summary: Mother’s Day should be more than a once-a-year occasion; it should be a daily celebration of gratitude and biblical love. Good mothers exemplify virtues that deserve to be recognized and reciprocated every day.

Call to Action:

  1. Reflect Daily: Each day, take a moment to appreciate the sacrifices and love your mother has shown you. Consider writing her a note or simply telling her what she means to you.
  2. Learn and Share: Dive deeper into the scriptures mentioned above and share your insights with your family or during a Mother’s Day gathering.
  3. Act Continuously: Show love and respect through consistent actions. Help around the house, spend quality time together, and be present—it’s these everyday acts that truly honor and uplift mothers.
  4. Celebrate Community: Encourage those in your community to honor their mothers by setting an example and organizing community activities that recognize and support mothers of all ages.

Closing Prayer: Lord, we thank You for the blessing of mothers who nurture, teach, and guide us. We pray for strength for every mother who tirelessly gives of herself in love and service. Help us to appreciate, respect, and honor them not just today but every day of our lives. Inspire us to support and uplift the mothers in our community, showing them the love and respect they so richly deserve. In Your holy name, Amen.