Children, Envy / Jealousy / Coveting, Faith / Trusting God, Humility, Parenting, Wise

When Favoritism Fractures a Family (Genesis 37:1–11)

Have you ever seen how a parent’s choices — even unintentional ones — can quietly shape resentment, insecurity, and division within a family?

Key Verse:
“Israel loved Joseph more than all his sons… and he made him a varicolored tunic.” —Genesis 37:3 NASB

Background Context:
Genesis 37 opens a new major section in Genesis — the story of Joseph. Joseph is seventeen years old, the firstborn son of Rachel, the wife Jacob loved most. Jacob openly favors Joseph over his other sons and expresses this favoritism by giving him a special robe.

Joseph also receives dreams from God that indicate future authority and prominence, but he shares them without discernment. His brothers respond with jealousy and hatred. What begins as favoritism and immature speech quickly grows into deep family division.

This chapter does not arise in isolation. The dysfunction we see here is rooted in earlier choices — particularly Jacob’s marriage to multiple wives and the long-standing pattern of favoritism that already fractured his family once before.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Genesis 37:1–11

Joseph’s Dream

      1Now Jacob lived in the land where his father had sojourned, in the land of Canaan. 2These are the records of the generations of Jacob.
Joseph, when seventeen years of age, was pasturing the flock with his brothers while he was still a youth, along with the sons of Bilhah and the sons of Zilpah, his father’s wives. And Joseph brought back a bad report about them to their father. 3Now Israel loved Joseph more than all his sons, because he was the son of his old age; and he made him a varicolored tunic. 4His brothers saw that their father loved him more than all his brothers; and so they hated him and could not speak to him on friendly terms.

      5Then Joseph had a dream, and when he told it to his brothers, they hated him even more. 6He said to them, “Please listen to this dream which I have had; 7for behold, we were binding sheaves in the field, and lo, my sheaf rose up and also stood erect; and behold, your sheaves gathered around and bowed down to my sheaf.” 8Then his brothers said to him, “Are you actually going to reign over us? Or are you really going to rule over us?” So they hated him even more for his dreams and for his words.

      9Now he had still another dream, and related it to his brothers, and said, “Lo, I have had still another dream; and behold, the sun and the moon and eleven stars were bowing down to me.” 10He related it to his father and to his brothers; and his father rebuked him and said to him, “What is this dream that you have had? Shall I and your mother and your brothers actually come to bow ourselves down before you to the ground?” 11His brothers were jealous of him, but his father kept the saying in mind.

Reflection on Genesis 37:1–11:
Joseph’s story begins not with betrayal, but with favoritism. Scripture is clear: Jacob loved Joseph more than his other sons. This was not Joseph’s fault — it was his father’s failure.

Jacob had lived this pattern before. His own parents favored different sons — Isaac favored Esau, Rebekah favored Jacob — and that favoritism nearly destroyed their family. Now, the same sin resurfaces in the next generation.

The root problem goes even deeper. Jacob’s family structure itself was broken. God never designed marriage to include multiple wives, yet Jacob took four women — Leah, Rachel, Bilhah, and Zilpah. The result was predictable: rivalry, jealousy, insecurity, and division among the children. When a family is formed through competition rather than covenant unity, the wounds echo for generations.

Joseph’s robe becomes a symbol — not just of favor, but of inequality. It publicly announces Jacob’s preference and quietly tells the other sons that they are less loved. This kind of favoritism poisons family relationships, breeding resentment and bitterness long before open conflict erupts.

Joseph’s dreams are from God, yet Joseph lacks wisdom in sharing them. He speaks truth without humility or discernment, unaware that timing and tone matter. God’s calling on our lives does not excuse immaturity or insensitivity.

This passage reminds us that God’s plans often begin in broken environments. Joseph’s future deliverance of many lives will come through a deeply flawed family. God’s sovereignty is not threatened by human failure — but human failure still brings real pain.

Genesis 37:1–11 shows us how unchecked favoritism, poor family leadership, and lack of wisdom can sow seeds of jealousy that later grow into devastating consequences.

Application:

  • Reject favoritism. Parents must guard against showing preference, which damages trust and unity.

  • Learn from past patterns. Sin that is not addressed often repeats across generations.

  • Value God’s design for family. God’s structure brings peace; deviation invites conflict.

  • Speak with wisdom. Even God-given truth must be shared with humility and discernment.

  • Address jealousy early. Bitterness grows when ignored.

  • Trust God in broken beginnings. He can still accomplish His purposes despite human failure.

Closing Prayer:
Father, thank You for Your honesty in Scripture, showing both human weakness and divine faithfulness. Help me learn from the mistakes of those who came before me. Guard my heart from favoritism, pride, and careless words. Teach me to lead my family with wisdom, humility, and fairness. Where brokenness exists, bring healing, and let Your purposes prevail even through imperfect people. In Yeshua’s name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

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Christmas on Trial – the Closing Argument

Enter the courtroom of conscience as we put Christmas on trial.

In a world adorned with festive lights and holiday cheer, let’s set aside sentimental traditions for a moment and embark on a truth-seeking journey.

Brace yourself for a compelling case presented by Clyde Kilough, challenging the origins of Christmas and its alignment with God’s will.

Join the jury of reflection and let the evidence unfold—because it’s not just Christmas that’s on trial, but perhaps our understanding of what truly pleases our Creator

Before we start, I invite you to pray with me:

Father, help me to consider the facts and perspective laid out in the article today with a heart that wants to please You above all others. Help me to be courageous to challenge emotional family and cultural traditions against the truth of Your word. Help me to truly reflect on and consider what change I should make for myself and my family in regard to popular holidays.  Amen.

Christmas on Trial

Imagine a courtroom where Christmas is on trial, charged with false impersonation of legitimate, godly worship. Both sides have presented their cases. Now it’s the prosecutor’s turn to make his closing argument. It could well go something like this.

By Clyde Kilough

Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, you’ve heard the defense supporting the religious practice of celebrating Christmas. I trust you noted it was not a biblical defense, because none exists.

Let’s step away from human reasoning and emotion, and revisit the facts presented to you by history, scholars and God’s Word itself.

You’ll recall that all the expert witnesses—secular historians and theologians alike—attested that modern Christmas practices can be easily traced back to non-Christian origins. Their sources were so numerous that no one bothered to present counterarguments.

Please remember these facts:

    • Christmas is a man-made holiday. The Bible has zero reference to celebrating Jesus’ birth, which was probably in the autumn, not winter. Not until nearly three centuries later, in fact, did a “birthday party for Jesus” make its way into religious observance. Not until A.D. 336 did a Roman calendar officially note celebrating Jesus’ birth on Dec. 25.
    • So how was Dec. 25 selected for this celebration? Pope Julius I decreed it. Why? Because syncretism, the blending of religions, had become a common tool employed by the Roman church for assimilating “heathens” into its fold. Midwinter pagan festivals were immensely popular throughout Europe, so mixing these into the church’s rituals was an easy method to induce nonbelievers to embrace their version of Christianity.
    • What were these festivals? They included:
    • The birthday of the sun god Mithra.
    • Saturnalia, a time of debauchery honoring the Roman god of agriculture, Saturn.
    • Northern European celebrations of the winter solstice glorifying the sun’s return.
    • The Scandinavian Norse religion’s yule celebrations Dec. 21 through January, with its abundant superstitious customs.
    • The German version revering their god Odin. Interestingly, Odin is supposed to have made nighttime flights during which he would watch people and decide who to bless and curse. Hmm. Isn’t that reminiscent of a modern tale of a mythical guy who flies at night, somehow having godlike powers to know “who’s naughty and nice”?

People aren’t easily converted from entrenched popular customs, but church leaders had their methods. Let the people keep their customs, they figured, but simply syncretize them with ours and call them Christian. Instead of celebrating Dies Natalis Solis Invicti—the birthday of the unconquered sun—we’ll say we’re now honoring Jesus, the Son of God.

I remind you of the historian who quoted Augustine of Hippo, a great church influence, as saying in a Christmas sermon, “Let us celebrate this day as a feast not for the sake of this sun, which is beheld by believers as much as ourselves, but for the sake of Him who created the sun.”

If Jesus appeared today, would He okay our worshipping on a holiday borrowed from pagan religions that idolized the sun, moon and rocks?

I’ve barely recapped the historical evidence, but clearly, no one can legitimately argue for any biblical support upholding any aspect of Christmas as a Christian holiday. In fact, virtually all of our Christmas traditions—trees, mistletoe, gift-giving, wreaths, caroling, Santa Claus—sprang from these pagan festivals.

It is the thought that counts!

So, ladies and gentlemen, let’s examine the defense’s arguments in support of observing Christmas today, beginning with the contention that “at the end of the day—so what? It’s the thought that counts!”

Actually, I agree 100 percent! It is the thought that matters—and it’s God’s thought that matters most! God left ample evidence of His thought on this in His Word, the Bible.

I remind you of the religious scholars who admitted that God has always adamantly opposed syncretism, often bemoaning how His people mixed their idolatrous neighbors’ customs with their worship of Him.

When God delivered Israel from Egypt, what did He command? “Do not inquire after their gods, saying, ‘How did these nations serve their gods? I also will do likewise.’ You shall not worship the Lord your God in that way.”

What part of “you shall not” is so confusing for us humans?

For emphasis, He added, “Whatever I command you, be careful to observe it; you shall not add to it nor take away from it.” That’s in Deuteronomy 12:30-32.

So, centuries later, after watching the people continually blend pagan practices into their worship, taking from and adding to everything He’d said, God told them through the prophet Amos, “I hate, I despise your feast days” (Amos 5:21).

Did God use lightly the words hate and despise? If not, why should we assume He feels differently today?

In the same verse He also said, “I take no delight in your solemn assemblies” (Revised Standard Version). Today’s most important “solemn assemblies” are Christmas and Easter, but they are not the holy days God appointed. Even then, God told them, “Take away from Me the noise of your songs” (verse 23). They may be beautiful and catchy songs, but because of what they represent and where they come from, to God they are just noise!

Now, since God says in Malachi 3:6, “I am the Lord, I do not change,” and emphasizes in Hebrews 13:8, “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever,” we have to ask, “Has God now changed His mind about such things?” If Jesus appeared today, would He okay our worshipping on a holiday borrowed from pagan religions that idolized the sun, moon and rocks? Because someone mixed it into religion and called it “Christian,” does that mean God sanctioned it?

It is the thought that counts—but what does God think?

But if my heart’s right …

You also heard from a defense witness who reasoned, “I know Christmas’ origins are wrong, but I know in my heart why I go to church at Christmas—it’s to honor Jesus—and I believe it’s what’s in my heart that counts!”

Absolutely—the heart does count! That’s big on God’s list of qualities! But don’t forget what Jesus said about the heart in Mark 7:6-9: “This people honors Me with their lips, but their heart is far from Me. And in vain they worship Me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men. For laying aside the commandment of God, you hold the tradition of men.” Jesus doesn’t accept just any worship, even if in our heart we think it’s okay.

Notice, too, He said, “All too well you reject the commandment of God, that you may keep your tradition.”

Christmas offers a prime example of this. Isn’t God the One who said, “Do not lie”? But what is one of the biggest Christmas traditions people cling to? Lying to kids about Santa Claus! How does that honor Jesus, who commands us not to lie! And don’t forget Easter. How do people lie to their kids that rabbits lay eggs, then trot off to church saying it’s all about worshipping God?

Do we really think we can reject doing what God says, instead borrowing religious practices from pagan religions, and think He’ll be happy about it because we say “my heart’s right”?

Tradition does not trump obedience. If our heart’s right, won’t we be striving to worship God “in spirit and in truth,” as Jesus told the Samaritan woman (John 4:24)?

Saying “Lord, Lord” to no avail

You also heard this line of reasoning from the defense: “Yes, everyone knows the bad side of Christmas—the partying, commercialism, indebtedness, greed and so on—but most people have a very merry Christmas. What’s wrong with families enjoying being together with good food, gifts, pretty music and lights, or helping the needy? There’s far more good than bad, and a lot of it involves good Christian acts!”

Well, of course God loves good things and seeing people happy. But do good deeds justify bad actions? Remember what Jesus said in Matthew 7:21-23: “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven.” Who was He addressing? Religious people proudly pointing out all their good deeds!

“Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’”

There is more “Lord, Lord” talk at this time of year than any other, but does it impress God when we persist in lawlessness—doing things He tells us not to do?

We say we’re worshipping the baby Jesus, but we’re not doing what the grown-up Jesus told us to do! If people were really serious about doing God’s will, we’d see real “peace on earth” and “goodwill toward men.” We’d see good deeds all the time, not just during a few days when they get in the “Christmas spirit.”

People of truth?

You also heard the defense try to poke a hole in our case by arguing, “The Jesus I know isn’t so radical about something that brings so much fun and enjoyment to everyone, even the fantasy part for the kids.”

Ladies and gentlemen, this one’s simple. Answer this, please: Would you like it if someone told your kids lies about you and got them to believe it? I don’t think so.

So how do you think God feels when He’s being lied about?

This is so important because of where it comes from. Jesus explained one time—in John 8:44—that the devil “is a liar and the father of it.” The people He was addressing were the religious leaders of the day, and He angered them by saying they were of their father the devil. It doesn’t matter who you are—if you lie, or perpetuate a lie, it’s wrong.

If people claim to follow God, isn’t it logical that He expects them to not lie? Aren’t Christians to be people of truth—telling the truth and practicing the truth?

Sad to say, for thousands of years God has seen people lying about Him, even under the guise of claiming to speak for Him.

Long ago God spoke through Ezekiel words that are just as true today: “Her priests have violated My law and profaned My holy things; they have not distinguished between the holy and unholy, nor have they made known the difference between the unclean and the clean; and they have hidden their eyes from My Sabbaths, so that I am profaned among them. … Her prophets plastered them with untempered mortar, seeing false visions, and divining lies for them, saying, ‘Thus says the Lord God,’ when the Lord had not spoken.” That’s Ezekiel 22:26 and 28.

Putting words in God’s mouth is just a bit presumptuous, wouldn’t you say?

What’s really on trial?

So, ladies and gentlemen of the jury, let me ask you again: Given the weight of evidence, both factual and circumstantial, if Jesus were here today, do you think He would attend Christmas Eve services, or exchange gifts around the Christmas tree? Would He have a “Put Christ back into Christmas” bumper sticker—or would He say He was never in it to begin with?

Would He still stand by His words in Matthew 4:4, that man shall live “by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God”? I ask, can you do that and observe Christmas at the same time?

I rest my case; but as you make your decision, I urge you to remember that it’s not really Christmas that is on trial—we are.

© 2019 Church of God, a Worldwide Association, Inc. ·

As we conclude this courtroom inquiry, the verdict lies in the hands of your conscience.

Take a moment for introspection, laying aside the tinsel and carols. Let the evidence presented resonate within your heart.

In the quiet chambers of prayer, seek guidance and discernment from the One who sees beyond the glitter and garlands. Reflect on what truly pleases our Creator, and may your decisions align with His timeless wisdom.

May your journey of faith be guided by truth and a sincere desire to honor the One who remains unchanged. Be still, reflect, and may your path be illuminated by the light of understanding and obedience.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John

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If God Says Something is Bad, Can We Make It Good?

There can easily be constant pressure to accept the traditions and ways of men or the culture around us. In many cases, it may be what we grew up with. It could be filled with great family memories from childhood and generations of family tradition. Everyone around us may be doing something a certain way and this helps us fit in with other Christians. Often, even if the origins of the tradition are pagan, people have framed up new stories about how the traditions of men really honor God. What should we do? Can we truly take something that God said was bad and make it good?

Christmas, and many holiday traditions common to Christians today, serve as powerful examples. There are many traditions that are of pagan origin. Many don’t know this and don’t even think to ask or test their traditions. Many more do know the traditions are of pagan origin, but rather convince themselves that we can turn what God said was bad into something good. Is this true? What does God say in the Bible?

Consider His people as they left Egypt. Yahweh delivered them from slavery through many mighty miracles. There were ten plagues, parting of the Red Sea, defeat of Pharaoh’s army, God appearing as fire and smoke to lead them, manna and water miraculously to meet their needs in the dessert. Surely, we would think that generation could never turn from the ways of God, but they did. They allowed themselves to revert to influences from the Egyptian culture in which they had lived for generations.

Exodus 32:1-10

The Golden Calf

      1Now when the people saw that Moses delayed to come down from the mountain, the people assembled about Aaron and said to him, “Come, make us a god who will go before us; as for this Moses, the man who brought us up from the land of Egypt, we do not know what has become of him.” 2Aaron said to them, “Tear off the gold rings which are in the ears of your wives, your sons, and your daughters, and bring them to me.” 3Then all the people tore off the gold rings which were in their ears and brought them to Aaron. 4He took this from their hand, and fashioned it with a graving tool and made it into a molten calf; and they said, “This is your god, O Israel, who brought you up from the land of Egypt.” 5Now when Aaron saw this, he built an altar before it; and Aaron made a proclamation and said, “Tomorrow shall be a feast to the LORD.” 6So the next day they rose early and offered burnt offerings, and brought peace offerings; and the people sat down to eat and to drink, and rose up to play.

      7Then the LORD spoke to Moses, “Go down at once, for your people, whom you brought up from the land of Egypt, have corrupted themselves. 8“They have quickly turned aside from the way which I commanded them. They have made for themselves a molten calf, and have worshiped it and have sacrificed to it and said, ‘This is your god, O Israel, who brought you up from the land of Egypt!’” 9The LORD said to Moses, “I have seen this people, and behold, they are an obstinate people. 10“Now then let Me alone, that My anger may burn against them and that I may destroy them; and I will make of you a great nation.”

I think we can all see clearly that Yahweh was not pleased with His people for making this idol and worshiping it. He was going to destroy them and start over. Let us consider carefully what happened. If we read to quickly, we may conclude, as many have, that the Israelites were worshiping an idol of a false god and that is why Yahweh was upset… but this is not the case.

Look closer. Indeed, they had created an idol and began to worship it, but in fact they were using the idol to represent Yahweh Himself. Consider the following verses:

“This is your god, O Israel, who brought you up from the land of Egypt.” 5Now when Aaron saw this, he built an altar before it; and Aaron made a proclamation and said, “Tomorrow shall be a feast to the LORD.”

In fact, the people were worshiping Yahweh, and He was very upset! Why? Yahweh does not want His people to worship Him in the way that the pagans worship their false gods. He wants us to worship Him in the way He tells us.

Deuteronomy 12:30-32

30beware that you are not ensnared to follow them, after they are destroyed before you, and that you do not inquire after their gods, saying, ‘How do these nations serve their gods, that I also may do likewise?’ 31“You shall not behave thus toward the LORD your God, for every abominable act which the LORD hates they have done for their gods; for they even burn their sons and daughters in the fire to their gods.

      32“Whatever I command you, you shall be careful to do; you shall not add to nor take away from it.

The Israelites may have been worshipping Yahweh, but they were doing so in like manner to how the Egyptians worshipped their false gods by making idols.

While this may seem like it does not apply today, it certainly does! Yahweh has not changed His opinion on what is good and what is bad. He still does not want us to worship Him with idols or with any of the manners or traditions with which the pagans worship false gods. If we take the time to study our common Christmas and Easter traditions (and other traditions as well), we will certainly find the history of many of these traditions are derived not from God’s word, but from pagan worship practices. Christians have created new meanings for many of these traditions, but they still are derived from pagan worship. Yahweh is not pleased, even if we say it is Him whom we are worshipping.

Do not repeat the error of the Israelites, which drew great anger from Yahweh. Instead, learn the history and true origin of the traditions you practice. Reject the ones that are derived from pagan worship. Instead, study and learn the practices and worship that Yahweh instructs us in His word. There is so much to learn!

I encourage you to invest time to get to know Yahweh. If He is Lord (and He certainly is!), then we should take time to learn His ways and reject the ways of the pagan worship… even if done in Yahweh’s name. Do not accept something just because it is a family or cultural “tradition”. Test and explore to understand the true origin and whether or not it may be offensive to our Lord. Do not fool yourself that you can take what is bad in His eyes and make it good by creating new Christian stories around old pagan traditions. Choose the Lord’s ways over even dear traditions that may be emotionally difficult to walk away from. Do not be like Lot’s wife who looked back at Sodom while leaving, but rather leave behind the past things without looking back on them.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

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Loved, Chosen, and Safe (Song of Solomon 2:1–7)

Have you ever struggled to believe you are truly loved — not because of what you do, but because of who you are?

Key Verse:
“He has brought me to his banquet hall, and his banner over me is love.” —Song of Solomon 2:4 NASB

Background Context:
Song of Solomon 2:1–7 continues the intimate dialogue between the bride and her beloved. The bride begins with humility, describing herself as an ordinary flower among many. The beloved responds with affirmation, setting her apart as unique and treasured. Their exchange emphasizes belonging, safety, and delight in love.

This passage also introduces an important refrain repeated throughout the book: love is powerful and should not be rushed or forced outside of God’s timing. It highlights both the beauty of affection and the wisdom of restraint.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Song of Solomon 2:1–7

The Bride’s Admiration

1“I am the rose of Sharon,
The lily of the valleys.”

      2“Like a lily among the thorns,
So is my darling among the maidens.”

      3“Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest,
So is my beloved among the young men.
In his shade I took great delight and sat down,
And his fruit was sweet to my taste.

      4“He has brought me to his banquet hall,
And his banner over me is love.

      5“Sustain me with raisin cakes,
Refresh me with apples,
Because I am lovesick.

      6“Let his left hand be under my head
And his right hand embrace me.”

      7“I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
By the gazelles or by the hinds of the field,
That you do not arouse or awaken my love
Until she pleases.”

Reflection on Song of Solomon 2:1–7:
The bride begins by downplaying herself — “a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valleys.” Her words express humility, but they may also hint at insecurity. The beloved immediately responds by distinguishing her from all others: she is a lily among thorns. His love does not merely accept her — it cherishes her as rare and precious.

She then describes resting under his shade and delighting in his fruit. This is the language of safety and provision. Love here is not anxious or demanding; it is secure and nourishing. The bride does not strive for affection — she rests in it.

The image of the banquet hall and the banner of love speaks to public affirmation. This love is not hidden or ashamed. The beloved declares his love openly, covering her with protection and dignity.

Yet love is also overwhelming. The bride speaks of being faint with love — a reminder that love is powerful and must be handled with care. This leads to the warning repeated three times in the Song: do not awaken love before its proper time. Desire is good, but it must be guided by wisdom and patience.

Spiritually, this passage reflects God’s love for His people. He calls us chosen, precious, and protected. He invites us to rest under His care rather than striving for approval. At the same time, God teaches us that love and desire must be submitted to His timing, not driven by impulse.

In marriage, this passage reminds us that love flourishes where there is affirmation, safety, and patience. Love does not rush, pressure, or demand — it protects and honors.

Application:

  • Receive God’s love. Stop striving to earn what He freely gives.

  • Rest in your identity. You are cherished, not ordinary or replaceable.

  • Affirm those you love. Speak words that build security and dignity.

  • Honor God’s timing. Do not rush emotional or physical intimacy.

  • Protect what is sacred. Love grows best when handled with care and wisdom.

  • Choose patience over pressure. True love waits for the right season.

Closing Prayer:
Father, thank You for loving me with a love that is secure, patient, and protecting. Help me to rest under Your care and stop striving for approval. Teach me to honor Your timing in love and desire, and to treat what You have made sacred with wisdom and respect. Let my relationships reflect the gentleness, safety, and faithfulness of Your love. In Yeshua’s name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

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The Lord Fights for the Righteous (Psalm 35)

When you are treated unjustly or falsely accused, where do you turn — to retaliation, or to the Lord who sees all things?

Key Verse:
“Contend, LORD, with those who contend with me; fight against those who fight against me.” —Psalm 35:1 NASB

Background Context:
Psalm 35 is a psalm of David written during a time of intense opposition and injustice. David is being pursued, slandered, and attacked by enemies who repay his kindness with hatred. Though the language is strong and emotional, this psalm is not a call for personal revenge. Instead, David brings his anguish directly to God, asking the Lord to act as his defender and judge.

This psalm reflects a deep trust in God’s justice. Rather than taking matters into his own hands, David lays his case before the Lord, confident that God sees the truth and will act rightly in His time.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Psalm 35

Prayer for Rescue from Enemies.

A Psalm of David.

     1Contend, O LORD, with those who contend with me;
Fight against those who fight against me.

      2Take hold of buckler and shield
And rise up for my help.

      3Draw also the spear and the battle-axe to meet those who pursue me;
Say to my soul, “I am your salvation.”

      4Let those be ashamed and dishonored who seek my life;
Let those be turned back and humiliated who devise evil against me.

      5Let them be like chaff before the wind,
With the angel of the LORD driving them on.

      6Let their way be dark and slippery,
With the angel of the LORD pursuing them.

      7For without cause they hid their net for me;
Without cause they dug a pit for my soul.

      8Let destruction come upon him unawares,
And let the net which he hid catch himself;
Into that very destruction let him fall.

      9And my soul shall rejoice in the LORD;
It shall exult in His salvation.

      10All my bones will say, “LORD, who is like You,
Who delivers the afflicted from him who is too strong for him,
And the afflicted and the needy from him who robs him?”

      11Malicious witnesses rise up;
They ask me of things that I do not know.

      12They repay me evil for good,
To the bereavement of my soul.

      13But as for me, when they were sick, my clothing was sackcloth;
I humbled my soul with fasting,
And my prayer kept returning to my bosom.

      14I went about as though it were my friend or brother;
I bowed down mourning, as one who sorrows for a mother.

      15But at my stumbling they rejoiced and gathered themselves together;
The smiters whom I did not know gathered together against me,
They slandered me without ceasing.

      16Like godless jesters at a feast,
They gnashed at me with their teeth.

      17Lord, how long will You look on?
Rescue my soul from their ravages,
My only life from the lions.

      18I will give You thanks in the great congregation;
I will praise You among a mighty throng.

      19Do not let those who are wrongfully my enemies rejoice over me;
Nor let those who hate me without cause wink maliciously.

      20For they do not speak peace,
But they devise deceitful words against those who are quiet in the land.

      21They opened their mouth wide against me;
They said, “Aha, aha, our eyes have seen it!”

      22You have seen it, O LORD, do not keep silent;
O Lord, do not be far from me.

      23Stir up Yourself, and awake to my right
And to my cause, my God and my Lord.

      24Judge me, O LORD my God, according to Your righteousness,
And do not let them rejoice over me.

      25Do not let them say in their heart, “Aha, our desire!”
Do not let them say, “We have swallowed him up!”

      26Let those be ashamed and humiliated altogether who rejoice at my distress;
Let those be clothed with shame and dishonor who magnify themselves over me.

      27Let them shout for joy and rejoice, who favor my vindication;
And let them say continually, “The LORD be magnified,
Who delights in the prosperity of His servant.”

      28And my tongue shall declare Your righteousness
And Your praise all day long.

Reflection on Psalm 35:
Psalm 35 gives voice to a kind of prayer many believers hesitate to pray — a prayer that cries out for justice. David does not pretend that betrayal and slander do not hurt. He names the pain honestly before God.

David describes enemies who plot secretly, mock him publicly, and rejoice in his suffering. What makes their actions especially painful is that David had previously shown them compassion. He had mourned for them in their hardship, yet they repaid him with hostility. This kind of betrayal cuts deeply.

Yet David does something crucial: he does not retaliate. Instead, he asks the Lord to contend for him. He calls on God as warrior, judge, and protector. This is not vengeance — it is surrender. David entrusts justice to God rather than seizing it for himself.

The psalm also reveals David’s confidence that God sees everything. False witnesses may distort the truth, but God knows the heart. Those who rejoice in wrongdoing may seem to prevail for a time, but David trusts that God will not remain silent forever.

Throughout the psalm, David’s lament turns toward praise. He anticipates rejoicing in God’s salvation and publicly declaring God’s righteousness. Even in the midst of injustice, David’s hope is not merely in being vindicated, but in honoring the Lord.

Psalm 35 teaches us that bringing our pain to God is an act of faith. We do not need to sanitize our prayers. God invites honesty — grief, anger, confusion — all laid at His feet. True righteousness is not proven by silence, but by trusting God to judge rightly.

Application:

  • Bring injustice to God. When you are wronged, take your case to the Lord rather than seeking revenge.

  • Trust God’s justice. He sees motives, lies, and hidden actions that others cannot.

  • Refuse retaliation. Leave room for God to act instead of responding in anger.

  • Pray honestly. God welcomes prayers that reflect real pain and real trust.

  • Maintain integrity. Let your response reflect faith, even when others act unjustly.

  • Look ahead to praise. Expect God’s righteousness to prevail, even if the timing is not immediate.

Closing Prayer:
Father, You see every injustice and hear every cry for help. When I am wronged or falsely accused, help me to trust You rather than seeking my own defense. Guard my heart from bitterness, and teach me to wait for Your righteous judgment. Strengthen my faith to believe that You are my defender and my deliverer. I place my cause in Your hands and choose to praise You, even in the struggle. In Yeshua’s name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

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Love That Proves We Belong to God (1 John 3:11–24)

If someone examined your life closely, would they see love in action — or only words?

Key Verse:
“We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brethren.” —1 John 3:14 NASB

Background Context:
After establishing that believers are children of God who do not practice sin as a way of life, John now explains how that new identity is revealed outwardly — through love. He reminds the church that this message is not new; it has been proclaimed “from the beginning.”

John contrasts the love of God’s children with the hatred of Cain, whose jealousy and evil actions led him to murder his brother. This passage emphasizes that genuine faith produces visible love, practical obedience, and confidence before God, all empowered by the Holy Spirit who abides in believers.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

1 John 3:11–24

 11For this is the message which you have heard from the beginning, that we should love one another; 12not as Cain, who was of the evil one and slew his brother. And for what reason did he slay him? Because his deeds were evil, and his brother’s were righteous.

      13Do not be surprised, brethren, if the world hates you. 14We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love abides in death. 15Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer; and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him. 16We know love by this, that He laid down His life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. 17But whoever has the world’s goods, and sees his brother in need and closes his heart against him, how does the love of God abide in him? 18Little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth. 19We will know by this that we are of the truth, and will assure our heart before Him 20in whatever our heart condemns us; for God is greater than our heart and knows all things. 21Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence before God; 22and whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do the things that are pleasing in His sight.

      23This is His commandment, that we believe in the name of His Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, just as He commanded us. 24The one who keeps His commandments abides in Him, and He in him. We know by this that He abides in us, by the Spirit whom He has given us.

Reflection on 1 John 3:11–24:
John begins by anchoring love as a foundational truth of the gospel. Loving one another is not an optional virtue or advanced spiritual discipline — it is evidence of spiritual life. Hatred, bitterness, or indifference toward others reveals spiritual death, just as Cain’s hatred exposed his allegiance to evil.

Cain’s example is sobering. He did not simply commit an isolated act of violence; his heart was already hardened. His works were evil, and his brother’s were righteous. Hatred grows when unrighteous hearts are confronted by godly lives.

John then shifts to assurance. “We know that we have passed out of death into life.” How? Not by perfect theology alone, but by love that flows outward. Love is not sentiment; it is sacrificial action modeled after Yeshua Himself, who laid down His life for us.

This love is meant to be practical. John asks a piercing question: if we see a brother in need and close our heart against him, how can God’s love abide in us? True love does not remain theoretical — it moves hands, feet, and resources.

Loving others does not mean approving of their sin or remaining silent when they walk toward harm; true love cares enough to speak truth with humility, calling one another away from sin and toward the life God offers.

Note the repeated emphasis on keeping his commandments as loving and abiding in him. Let us not fall prey to new and sadly increasingly accepted false teaching that says we can do whatever we want because we have “freedom in Christ”. He never made us free with the intent that we should sin more. We are free from the penalty of sin and forgiven. If we are truly in Christ, we will want to obey the instructions of the Father.

Grace is how YHWH shows love to us. Obeying and living according to his instructions is how we show love to him and each other. All the law and the prophets are based on this principle, according to Yeshua.

Matthew 22:34-40

    34But when the Pharisees heard that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered themselves together. 35One of them, a lawyer, asked Him a question, testing Him, 36“Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” 37And He said to him, “ ‘YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.’ 38“This is the great and foremost commandment. 39“The second is like it, ‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.’ 40“On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.”

John’s teaching also addresses the believer’s conscience. There are moments when our hearts condemn us — when guilt, failure, or doubt whispers accusations. John reassures us that God is greater than our hearts. He knows the full truth of our lives, including our repentance and desire to obey.

Finally, John brings everything together: believe in the name of Yeshua, love one another, and abide in Him. The Spirit within us confirms that we belong to God. Our confidence does not rest in our performance, but in a life increasingly shaped by faith, love, and obedience.

Application:

  • Examine your love. Is it active and sacrificial, or distant and theoretical?

  • Reject bitterness and hatred. These belong to spiritual death, not to the children of God.

  • Love as Christ loved. True love costs something and reflects the cross.

  • Respond to needs. Open your heart and hands when God places someone in need before you.

  • Speak truth with love. Care enough to point others toward righteousness, not silence that allows harm.

  • Rest when your heart condemns you. God’s knowledge and mercy are greater than your feelings.

  • Abide daily. Walk closely with God through faith, obedience, and reliance on His Spirit.

Closing Prayer:
Father, thank You for bringing me from death to life through Your Son. Teach me to love not just in words, but in action and truth. Guard my heart from bitterness and selfishness, and help me to reflect the sacrificial love of Yeshua. When my heart condemns me, remind me that You are greater, and that Your Spirit abides within me. Strengthen my confidence as I walk in faith, love, and obedience. In Yeshua’s name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

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A Parable About Sharing Christ through Holiday Traditions

Amidst the glittering lights and festive cheer, a parable unfolds, inviting us to examine the delicate dance between holiday traditions and true faith. Picture two paths diverging, each offering a unique approach to share Christ amid the allure of seasonal customs.

In this tale, we journey through the twinkling maze of Christmas trees and the echoes of age-old carols. Yet, beyond the tinsel and warmth, a crucial question lingers: Do our cherished holiday traditions truly align with God’s desires, or have they unwittingly become veiled distractions?

Meet two individuals on a mission to share Christ, one steadfast in presenting unfiltered Biblical truths, the other opting for a blend of compromise. As we navigate their choices, we find ourselves standing at the crossroads of our own holiday traditions.

There were two men, each of whom wanted to share Christ with Buddhists, but they had very different approaches.

The first man decided he would reach them with only the instructions laid out in the Bible. He knew it would be hard. He was dedicated to putting in the hard work to reach and serve them and to bring them only the truth of the God’s word from the Bible. He knew this may not bring the biggest crowds, but he wanted to ensure those who did respond to the message would genuinely be led toward Christ and a fruitful, Biblical relationship with Him. He understood that God must work in someone’s heart and draw them to Him if they are to truly follow Him. Man cannot do it alone. He worked tirelessly and met much resistance. He taught them about the appointed times of God in Leviticus 23 and taught them how and when to celebrate what God had instructed rather than what man had made up. Many were very attached to the traditions and customs they grew up with. Many rejected the message of the Bible, but those that did come truly came to know Christ and His teachings. They had to make hard choices and walk away from many traditions that were dear to them. They had to change even things they enjoyed in order to put Christ first and live His way. For those who judged by counting the number of “converts” or the number of people attending services, this ministry was deemed not very successful. But God saw those who were truly reached for Him and smiled. People had been reached with the truth and come to Him on His terms with repentance, thanksgiving, love and submission in their hearts. Their lives were fully transformed.

The second man observed the limited results of the first man’s efforts. He saw how many of the Buddhists refused to give up their traditions and practices, even if they were willing to listen about Christ. He had a different idea. He was sure he could make it easier for people to come accept Christ if he let them keep many of their traditions and just relabeled them with Christian meaning. He observed the Buddhist traditions and holidays. He compromised purity of the gospel of Christ by blending Biblical teaching with Buddhist teaching. For one example, he embraced Buddha statues. He said they represent God’s provision and abundance rather than Buddha. He understood that God says in the Bible not to worship Him the way that the pagans worship their Gods, but he thought that was too extreme for today’s situation. He could make this a good thing and lead people to Christ by using the pagan traditions. He had many more people show up to his services and accept Christ. For those who counted success by counting the number of people, this ministry seemed much more successful. God, however, was sad. He saw now a group of people who had not repented of their sin. They had not walked away from the things that He said were bad. They had not chosen to put Him first in their lives. They simply added Christ’s name and some of His teaching on top of the traditions and beliefs they previously held. Now they had a blended teaching which kept the people farther from Him, all the while making them comfortable that they had accepted Christ, though they had not changed their lives fully. They gave Christ only part of their attention and obedience. He was not first. Instead, family traditions and pagan worship traditions remained first in their hearts. They had “fit God in” around those other things.

Reflecting on these approaches, consider the parallels in the history of Christmas traditions. While most Christians reject blending Christianity with Buddhism, the historical adoption of pagan practices into Christmas often goes unquestioned. Evergreen decorations, Christmas trees, and other customs originated in pagan celebrations, later absorbed into Christmas with Christian labels. The emotional attachment to these traditions, painted in the name of Christ, often blinds us to their origins.

As you ponder this parable, delve into the history of Christmas and God’s explicit command not to adopt pagan practices. Reflect on whether cherished traditions align with putting God first. The journey may be challenging, but the reward lies in growing closer to Him by prioritizing His ways.

Acknowledging the emotional difficulty of change, remember that standing for Christ above all else may stir discord. As Jesus foretold in Matthew 10:23-39, such challenges are inherent in prioritizing Christ.

This parable urges you to prayerfully study the history of Christmas, seeking God’s truth in His word. Explore 119Ministries.com’s documentary, “The Christmas Question” and teachings like “Sunburned – Part 1 and Sunburned – Part 2.” Consider God’s instructions in Leviticus 23 and His focus on Moedim, the holy days outlined in the Bible.

You can also study more of our posts on this subject by searching the category “traditions / holidays” on our website at http://hearingfromjesus.org/category/traditions.

The LORD has also given us instructions on what holy days to celebrate to point to Him and our relationship with Him. They are called the Moedim and are outlined in Leviticus 23 and other places throughout the Bible.

You can find scripture where Jesus participated in the Moedim. You will never find record of Jesus celebrating Christmas and Easter (or almost anything we celebrate commonly today) in the Biblical record. Passover is different than  Easter.

With God’s celebrations, the focus is always on Him and not gifts or food or simply ourselves.

To learn more, read our teaching on Celebrating God’s Holy Days (Moedim) or scroll through and read from our Traditions/ Holidays category of teachings.

I invite you to pray with me:

Father, grant us clarity and discernment regarding traditions and Your ways. Instill courage within us to embrace change and prioritize You above all. Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you. John

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Set Apart to Live Like Him (1 John 3:1-10)

Have you ever paused to truly consider how astounding it is that God calls you His child — and what that means for how you live?

Key Verse:
“See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are.” —1 John 3:1 NASB

Background Context:
John opens this section with an outburst of worship. He marvels that God does not merely forgive us — He adopts us. We are not simply servants or followers; we are His children. Because of this new identity, the world does not understand us any more than it understood Jesus.

John then connects identity to transformation. When Christ appears, we will be like Him, so even now we purify our lives in anticipation. He contrasts the children of God with the children of the devil, explaining that habitual sin is incompatible with a life born of God.

This passage is not about sinless perfection but about the direction of one’s life — a life shaped by righteousness rather than rebellion.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

1 John 3 (1-10)

Children of God Love One Another

     1See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are. For this reason the world does not know us, because it did not know Him. 2Beloved, now we are children of God, and it has not appeared as yet what we will be. We know that when He appears, we will be like Him, because we will see Him just as He is. 3And everyone who has this hope fixed on Him purifies himself, just as He is pure.

      4Everyone who practices sin also practices lawlessness; and sin is lawlessness. 5You know that He appeared in order to take away sins; and in Him there is no sin. 6No one who abides in Him sins; no one who sins has seen Him or knows Him. 7Little children, make sure no one deceives you; the one who practices righteousness is righteous, just as He is righteous; 8the one who practices sin is of the devil; for the devil has sinned from the beginning. The Son of God appeared for this purpose, to destroy the works of the devil. 9No one who is born of God practices sin, because His seed abides in him; and he cannot sin, because he is born of God. 10By this the children of God and the children of the devil are obvious: anyone who does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor the one who does not love his brother.

Reflection on 1 John 3:1–10:
John begins with awe: “See what great love…” The message is not merely taught; it is exclaimed. Adoption into God’s family is a gift beyond human comprehension. The more we understand it, the more we recognize that our lives must be transformed to reflect our Father.

John reminds us that being God’s child will make us misunderstood in this world. Our values, our priorities, our hopes, and our obedience are different. We belong to a heavenly Father, not an earthly system.

Then he gives a forward-looking promise: “We will be like Him.” Our future glory motivates present purity. Hope in Christ leads naturally to holiness.

John then moves into a strong warning about sin. He speaks plainly: those who practice sin — meaning those who live in it as a pattern, habit, or defining lifestyle — show that they do not belong to God. Not because they struggle, but because they have no desire to change.

He is not describing the believer who stumbles and repents, but the person who is comfortable in sin and unchanged by grace.

John explains why:

  • Jesus came to take away sin.

  • Jesus appeared to destroy the works of the devil.

  • God’s seed — His life — remains in His children.

A transformed identity produces a transformed life.

This passage also reminds us that our faith is not a “blind leap.” It is anchored in the historical reality of Christ’s appearance, His victory over sin, and His ongoing work in those who belong to Him. Our transformation is evidence of His living presence.

Application:

  • Marvel at your identity. Begin each day remembering: “I am a child of God.”

  • Pursue purity. Let the hope of seeing Christ shape your choices today.

  • Examine your habits. Are your patterns consistent with belonging to God or to the world?

  • Do not become comfortable with sin. Repent quickly; cling to Christ’s power to change you.

  • Live as someone set apart. Expect to be misunderstood — your allegiance is heavenly.

  • Anchor your faith in truth. Your walk with God is rooted in real, historical acts of God, not vague spiritual sentiment.

Closing Prayer:
Father, thank You for calling me Your child. Help me never take for granted the love that adopted me into Your family. Purify my heart, transform my habits, and empower me to walk in righteousness. Keep me from becoming comfortable with sin, and strengthen me to live as one who belongs to You. Make my life a testimony to the grace and truth of Your Son. In Yeshua’s name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

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A Heartfelt Reflection on Family Traditions (The Parable of Two Fathers)

In the heart of a town, two fathers stood as neighbors, each with a son, driven by a common desire to honor God. Both attended church faithfully, praying and reading the Bible with their sons. Yet, their paths diverged, shaping the destinies of their families.

The first father, unwavering in his commitment to God, faced mockery for standing firm in his convictions. He refused to lie to his son, and his son noticed.  His son observed this courage, and the father’s honesty resonated deeply. He instilled a belief in one God, teaching that God defines good and bad, and sin carries consequences.

As the son grew older, he sometimes wondered how he could know Jesus was real since he could not “see” him or “touch” him but accepted it because his father was always honest with him. He learned to stand for Jesus even when it was hard, because he learned by watching his father.

In contrast, the second father clung to generational traditions, content in a comfortable existence. He blended truths with fanciful tales, weaving a web of make-believe characters into his son’s life. It felt comfortable, most of his friends and neighbors lived their lives in a similar manner so there was no conflict.

He did not feel that God really cared that much about some areas of how he and his family led their daily lives. He told his son that Jesus was the way to God, but he also liked to tell his son seemingly harmless made-up stories about make believe characters. He enjoyed telling his son about the tooth fairy, Easter bunny, and of course Santa Claus. He continued the stories for many years until finally his son would learn on his own that each story was not true.

The father even went out of his way to provide false evidence that the stories were true… like money under the pillow for a tooth or telling his son that the bunny hid the eggs and brought him a basket, and of course having lots of presents at Christmas… all from Santa.  He even ate cookies and milk on behalf of Santa. After all, it’s just a bit of fun. What harm can it do?

Yet, as his son grew older, the line between reality and fiction blurred, leaving him with doubts about Jesus and the Bible. The son sometimes wondered how he could know Jesus was real since he could not “see” him or “touch” him. He loved his father, but throughout his life his father had lied to him and even gone out of his way to fake evidence in many make-believe characters. He could not help but wonder if Jesus and the Bible were like the rest of the made-up stories and he had many doubts.

Reflections on Tradition and Truth

Let’s pause and consider the stories we tell our children. Are we unknowingly weaving a web of lies, disrupting the authenticity of our faith journey? Beyond the potential mistrust caused by falsehoods, we must scrutinize the deeper impact of our traditions.

Take the story of Santa Claus—a representative example. It shifts the focus of Christmas from giving to receiving, emphasizing deserving gifts based on behavior. The supposed accountability for “bad” actions becomes inconsequential, undermining the idea of consequences for wrong choices. Furthermore, Santa, an all-knowing and eternal figure, can be seen as a subtle replacement for God.

Christmas Traditions and Their Underlying Messages

The story of Santa, widely accepted and celebrated, inadvertently draws attention away from God, causing confusion and doubt. As Christians, it’s crucial to question whether our cherished traditions align with God’s message. It’s not merely about lying to our children but about the values and lessons embedded in these stories.

Trying to tell a child Christmas is about Jesus, but then overwhelming them with presents and made-up stories about Santa is like telling a child to eat a carrot and then putting in front of them a table full of cookies, brownies, cakes, and ice cream. At the very least, the table of desserts is a major distraction. In most cases, the children will remember the desserts long after they forget the carrot.

After spending years lying to children and convincing them that Santa is real, even when they start to recognize it and ask questions, we will then tell them it was all in fun… but trust me about Jesus.

Even Atheists Like Santa

Santa is in fact accepted around the world by many because he is absolutely not pointing to God, but rather distracting attention away from God or replacing God completely. Christians and non-Christians alike accept him. In one example, Santa’s picture was used as a spokesman for a billboard campaign by atheists basically saying we can be good without need of God. “Go ahead and skip church! Just be good for goodness sake.” (link to article here). [How an atheist can define “good” while claiming there is no God is an interesting conversation for another day.]

The Emotional Challenge of Change

Recognizing the need for change is emotional and challenging. Yet, standing for Christ above all else, even within our families, is a commitment Christ himself acknowledged would stir discord. (Matthew 10:32-39)

Choose God’s Ways Over Man-Made Traditions

In the spirit of self-reflection, challenge yourself to objectively evaluate your traditions. Seek God’s truth in His word and apply it in your life. Remember, God desires His people to be holy and righteous, placing Him above all else.

A Call to Prayerful Action

May this reflection be an awakening, prompting prayerful consideration. We encourage you to seek God’s guidance, bravely stepping into a journey where His ways triumph over the traditions of man.

Closing Challenge: Put God First

As we conclude, remember the words of Jesus—choose God over familial bonds, prioritizing Christ above all. For in giving up our lives for Him, we truly find life.

God wants his people to be holy (set apart for God’s use) and righteous (living according to God’s commands rather than the world’s). He wants us to put Him first, above everything else.

Challenge yourself to objectively evaluate your traditions and seek first the kingdom of God. Do not dismiss this quickly but rather prayerfully seek God to show you the truth of His word and how to apply it in your life.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John

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God’s Faithfulness Across Generations (Genesis 36)

Do you ever look at others who seem to prosper and wonder why their lives appear easier or more successful than yours?

Key Verse:
“For their property had become too great for them to live together, and the land where they sojourned could not sustain them because of their livestock.” —Genesis 36:7 NASB

Background Context:
Genesis 36 records the genealogy of Esau, also called Edom. While genealogies may seem difficult to read, they serve an important purpose in Scripture: they trace God’s faithfulness through history, show His fulfillment of promises, and reveal the unfolding of nations.

Though the covenant line continues through Jacob, God still blesses Esau. Decades earlier, God promised Abraham that many nations would come from him, and that included Esau’s line. Genesis 36 shows Esau becoming a great leader, his descendants forming powerful clans, and eventually producing kings long before Israel had any.

This chapter demonstrates that God is faithful in every direction — to His covenant promises for Jacob, and to His broader promises for Abraham’s other descendants.

(Continued and expanded after scripture.)

Genesis 36

Esau Moves

      1Now these are the records of the generations of Esau (that is, Edom).

      2Esau took his wives from the daughters of Canaan: Adah the daughter of Elon the Hittite, and Oholibamah the daughter of Anah and the granddaughter of Zibeon the Hivite; 3also Basemath, Ishmael’s daughter, the sister of Nebaioth. 4Adah bore Eliphaz to Esau, and Basemath bore Reuel, 5and Oholibamah bore Jeush and Jalam and Korah. These are the sons of Esau who were born to him in the land of Canaan.

      6Then Esau took his wives and his sons and his daughters and all his household, and his livestock and all his cattle and all his goods which he had acquired in the land of Canaan, and went to another land away from his brother Jacob. 7For their property had become too great for them to live together, and the land where they sojourned could not sustain them because of their livestock. 8So Esau lived in the hill country of Seir; Esau is Edom.

Descendants of Esau

      9These then are the records of the generations of Esau the father of the Edomites in the hill country of Seir. 10These are the names of Esau’s sons: Eliphaz the son of Esau’s wife Adah, Reuel the son of Esau’s wife Basemath. 11The sons of Eliphaz were Teman, Omar, Zepho and Gatam and Kenaz. 12Timna was a concubine of Esau’s son Eliphaz and she bore Amalek to Eliphaz. These are the sons of Esau’s wife Adah. 13These are the sons of Reuel: Nahath and Zerah, Shammah and Mizzah. These were the sons of Esau’s wife Basemath. 14These were the sons of Esau’s wife Oholibamah, the daughter of Anah and the granddaughter of Zibeon: she bore to Esau, Jeush and Jalam and Korah.

      15These are the chiefs of the sons of Esau. The sons of Eliphaz, the firstborn of Esau, are chief Teman, chief Omar, chief Zepho, chief Kenaz, 16chief Korah, chief Gatam, chief Amalek. These are the chiefs descended from Eliphaz in the land of Edom; these are the sons of Adah. 17These are the sons of Reuel, Esau’s son: chief Nahath, chief Zerah, chief Shammah, chief Mizzah. These are the chiefs descended from Reuel in the land of Edom; these are the sons of Esau’s wife Basemath. 18These are the sons of Esau’s wife Oholibamah: chief Jeush, chief Jalam, chief Korah. These are the chiefs descended from Esau’s wife Oholibamah, the daughter of Anah. 19These are the sons of Esau (that is, Edom), and these are their chiefs.

      20These are the sons of Seir the Horite, the inhabitants of the land: Lotan and Shobal and Zibeon and Anah, 21and Dishon and Ezer and Dishan. These are the chiefs descended from the Horites, the sons of Seir in the land of Edom. 22The sons of Lotan were Hori and Hemam; and Lotan’s sister was Timna. 23These are the sons of Shobal: Alvan and Manahath and Ebal, Shepho and Onam. 24These are the sons of Zibeon: Aiah and Anah—he is the Anah who found the hot springs in the wilderness when he was pasturing the donkeys of his father Zibeon. 25These are the children of Anah: Dishon, and Oholibamah, the daughter of Anah. 26These are the sons of Dishon: Hemdan and Eshban and Ithran and Cheran. 27These are the sons of Ezer: Bilhan and Zaavan and Akan. 28These are the sons of Dishan: Uz and Aran. 29These are the chiefs descended from the Horites: chief Lotan, chief Shobal, chief Zibeon, chief Anah, 30chief Dishon, chief Ezer, chief Dishan. These are the chiefs descended from the Horites, according to their various chiefs in the land of Seir.

      31Now these are the kings who reigned in the land of Edom before any king reigned over the sons of Israel. 32Bela the son of Beor reigned in Edom, and the name of his city was Dinhabah. 33Then Bela died, and Jobab the son of Zerah of Bozrah became king in his place. 34Then Jobab died, and Husham of the land of the Temanites became king in his place. 35Then Husham died, and Hadad the son of Bedad, who defeated Midian in the field of Moab, became king in his place; and the name of his city was Avith. 36Then Hadad died, and Samlah of Masrekah became king in his place. 37Then Samlah died, and Shaul of Rehoboth on the Euphrates River became king in his place. 38Then Shaul died, and Baal-hanan the son of Achbor became king in his place. 39Then Baal-hanan the son of Achbor died, and Hadar became king in his place; and the name of his city was Pau; and his wife’s name was Mehetabel, the daughter of Matred, daughter of Mezahab.

      40Now these are the names of the chiefs descended from Esau, according to their families and their localities, by their names: chief Timna, chief Alvah, chief Jetheth, 41chief Oholibamah, chief Elah, chief Pinon, 42chief Kenaz, chief Teman, chief Mibzar, 43chief Magdiel, chief Iram. These are the chiefs of Edom (that is, Esau, the father of the Edomites), according to their habitations in the land of their possession.

Reflection on Genesis 36:
Genesis 36 opens with a simple but meaningful statement: “Now these are the records of the generations of Esau.” What follows is not a random list — it is a demonstration of God’s faithfulness.

Esau becomes the father of Edom, a nation with chiefs, clans, and kings. His descendants are numerous, organized, and influential. God had promised that Esau would become a great nation, and He fulfilled that promise fully.

This chapter also shows a peaceful separation between Jacob and Esau. Their possessions became too great to dwell together, echoing the separation of Abraham and Lot. God was expanding both families, but His purposes required distance so that Jacob could inherit the land of promise.

Esau’s story raises an important truth:
Earthly success is not the same as covenant blessing.
Esau prospered — with land, kings, and power — but he did not pursue the God of Abraham with his heart. His descendants become a significant nation, but they also frequently opposed Israel later in Scripture.

At the same time, Genesis 36 reminds us not to assume that outward prosperity equals God’s favor, nor that hardship means God has abandoned His people. Jacob’s path was harder, but he walked in the covenant. Esau’s path looked prosperous, but without the spiritual inheritance.

In recording Esau’s genealogy, Scripture teaches us that God is faithful, sovereign over nations, and working on multiple tracks at once. His promises always come to pass — for covenant and non-covenant lines alike — but not all blessings are the same. Some are earthly; others are eternal.

Application:

  • Trust God’s timing and promises. If He fulfilled His word to Esau, how much more will He fulfill His covenant promises to His people?

  • Do not measure God’s blessing by earthly prosperity. Wealth or influence does not equal spiritual favor.

  • Avoid comparison. Others may appear to prosper more quickly, but God’s path for you is part of His eternal plan.

  • Recognize God’s sovereignty. Nations rise and fall under His hand; nothing in history is accidental.

  • Value spiritual inheritance above all. Jacob’s path was harder, but led to eternal covenant blessing.

  • Remember that genealogies matter. They reveal God’s faithfulness even in places we are tempted to skim past.

Closing Prayer:
Father, thank You for Your faithfulness through every generation. Help me trust Your promises, even when others seem to prosper more quickly or easily. Teach me to value spiritual inheritance above earthly success. Lead me in Your covenant ways, and give me confidence that You are sovereign over my life and over all history. In Yeshua’s name, Amen.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda

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