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When Friends Offer Troubling Advice (Job 22)

Have you ever experienced the frustration of receiving well-intentioned advice that seems far from the mark?

In life’s most challenging moments, we often turn to friends for support and guidance, but sometimes their counsel can miss the mark entirely. Job faced similar experiences, especially in the dialogue found in Job 22.

Let’s explore the lessons we can learn from Job’s encounters with his friends.

Reconnect: In the preceding chapters of the Book of Job, we witness Job’s ongoing suffering and his friends’ attempts to explain it as a result of his sins, reflecting the idea that suffering is always a consequence of personal sin. In contrast, Job stands emphatically behind his innocence, challenging this simplistic view of suffering as divine punishment for personal wrongdoing.

(Summarized and continued after the scripture)

Job 22

Eliphaz Accuses and Exhorts Job

      1Then Eliphaz the Temanite responded,

      2“Can a vigorous man be of use to God,
Or a wise man be useful to himself?

      3“Is there any pleasure to the Almighty if you are righteous,
Or profit if you make your ways perfect?

      4“Is it because of your reverence that He reproves you,
That He enters into judgment against you?

      5“Is not your wickedness great,
And your iniquities without end?

      6“For you have taken pledges of your brothers without cause,
And stripped men naked.

      7“To the weary you have given no water to drink,
And from the hungry you have withheld bread.

      8“But the earth belongs to the mighty man,
And the honorable man dwells in it.

      9“You have sent widows away empty,
And the strength of the orphans has been crushed.

      10“Therefore snares surround you,
And sudden dread terrifies you,

      11Or darkness, so that you cannot see,
And an abundance of water covers you.

      12“Is not God in the height of heaven?
Look also at the distant stars, how high they are!

      13“You say, ‘What does God know?
Can He judge through the thick darkness?

      14‘Clouds are a hiding place for Him, so that He cannot see;
And He walks on the vault of heaven.’

      15“Will you keep to the ancient path
Which wicked men have trod,

      16Who were snatched away before their time,
Whose foundations were washed away by a river?

      17“They said to God, ‘Depart from us!’
And ‘What can the Almighty do to them?’

      18“Yet He filled their houses with good things;
But the counsel of the wicked is far from me.

      19“The righteous see and are glad,
And the innocent mock them,

      20Saying, ‘Truly our adversaries are cut off,
And their abundance the fire has consumed.’

      21“Yield now and be at peace with Him;
Thereby good will come to you.

      22“Please receive instruction from His mouth
And establish His words in your heart.

      23“If you return to the Almighty, you will be restored;
If you remove unrighteousness far from your tent,

      24And place your gold in the dust,
And the gold of Ophir among the stones of the brooks,

      25Then the Almighty will be your gold
And choice silver to you.

      26“For then you will delight in the Almighty
And lift up your face to God.

      27“You will pray to Him, and He will hear you;
And you will pay your vows.

      28“You will also decree a thing, and it will be established for you;
And light will shine on your ways.

      29“When you are cast down, you will speak with confidence,
And the humble person He will save.

      30“He will deliver one who is not innocent,
And he will be delivered through the cleanness of your hands.”

Summary Key Points:

  1. Eliphaz’s Accusations: In Job 22, Eliphaz, one of Job’s friends, offers a harsh rebuke to Job, accusing him of various sins. He suggests that Job’s suffering is a direct result of his wickedness, asserting that God punishes the wicked and rewards the righteous. Eliphaz’s accusations reflect a common belief that suffering is always a consequence of personal sin.
  2. Lessons in Empathy: Job’s experience with his friends reminds us of the importance of empathy and sensitivity when offering counsel to those in distress. While Eliphaz and others may have had good intentions, their failure to understand the depth of Job’s suffering and their rush to judgment illustrate the need for compassion in difficult times. They were trying to solve the problem instead of simply comforting and encouraging their friend.
  3. Seeking God’s Perspective: Job’s story prompts us to seek God’s perspective in times of suffering. Instead of jumping to conclusions or offering quick answers, we should approach the suffering of others with humility and prayer, recognizing that we may not fully comprehend God’s purposes.

Call to Action: As we reflect on Job 22, let us strive to be empathetic listeners and companions to those facing trials. Rather than making hasty judgments or providing easy explanations, let us pray for discernment and seek God’s perspective. When comforting friends in times of suffering, may we offer not only words of encouragement but also the gift of understanding and empathy.

Closing Prayer: Heavenly Father, we thank You for the lessons found in the Book of Job. Help us to be compassionate and understanding friends to those in times of suffering. Grant us the wisdom to seek Your perspective and guidance when comforting others, and may our words and actions reflect Your love and grace. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.

Discussion Prompt: Share a personal experience where you received counsel from a well-meaning friend that missed the mark. How did it make you feel, and what did you learn from that experience? How can we apply the lessons from Job’s story to our interactions with those facing trials?

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda


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Job’s Cry for Empathy and Comfort (Job 16)

Have you ever faced overwhelming suffering and longed for empathy, comfort, and compassion from your friends?

In Job 16, we join Job in his deep distress, seeking understanding and solace in the midst of his trials.

Reconnect: In the preceding chapters (Job 14-15), Job and his friends engage in a series of dialogues. Job passionately expresses his longing for empathy, comfort, and compassion, while his friends continue to offer explanations for his suffering based on their limited understanding.

(Summarized and continued after the scripture)

Job 16

Job Says Friends Are Sorry Comforters

      1Then Job answered,

      2“I have heard many such things;
Sorry comforters are you all.

      3“Is there no limit to windy words?
Or what plagues you that you answer?

      4“I too could speak like you,
If I were in your place.
I could compose words against you
And shake my head at you.

      5“I could strengthen you with my mouth,
And the solace of my lips could lessen your pain.

Job Says God Shattered Him

6“If I speak, my pain is not lessened,
And if I hold back, what has left me?

      7“But now He has exhausted me;
You have laid waste all my company.

      8“You have shriveled me up,
It has become a witness;
And my leanness rises up against me,
It testifies to my face.

      9“His anger has torn me and hunted me down,
He has gnashed at me with His teeth;
My adversary glares at me.

      10“They have gaped at me with their mouth,
They have slapped me on the cheek with contempt;
They have massed themselves against me.

      11“God hands me over to ruffians
And tosses me into the hands of the wicked.

      12“I was at ease, but He shattered me,
And He has grasped me by the neck and shaken me to pieces;
He has also set me up as His target.

      13“His arrows surround me.
Without mercy He splits my kidneys open;
He pours out my gall on the ground.

      14“He breaks through me with breach after breach;
He runs at me like a warrior.

      15“I have sewed sackcloth over my skin
And thrust my horn in the dust.

      16“My face is flushed from weeping,
And deep darkness is on my eyelids,

      17Although there is no violence in my hands,
And my prayer is pure.

      18“O earth, do not cover my blood,
And let there be no resting place for my cry.

      19“Even now, behold, my witness is in heaven,
And my advocate is on high.

      20“My friends are my scoffers;
My eye weeps to God.

      21“O that a man might plead with God
As a man with his neighbor!

      22“For when a few years are past,
I shall go the way of no return.

Summary Key Points:

  1. Job’s Suffering Intensifies: By the time we reach Job 16, we find Job’s suffering has intensified. He’s been grappling with the loss of his wealth, health, and family, and he longs for relief. Job’s friends, rather than offering comfort, have added to his pain by assuming he’s suffering because of hidden sins.
  2. Job’s Frustration with His Friends: Job becomes increasingly frustrated with his friends’ accusations and lack of empathy. He feels their words are like empty proverbs and unhelpful comfort, adding to his misery.
  3. Job’s Reliance on God: Despite his suffering and frustration, Job does not give up on God. He continues to look to the Almighty as his witness and advocate, believing that even in his suffering, there is a deeper purpose.

As we reflect on Job’s desperate cry for empathy and comfort from his friends, may we recognize the importance of being compassionate when comforting those who suffer.

Let us seek to be understanding and solace-givers at times rather than just problem-solvers.

In our discussions and reflections, consider how you can provide comfort and compassion to those facing trials.

Engage in conversations with friends or family members, sharing your thoughts on the significance of empathy in times of suffering.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda


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Navigating Adversity, Internal Struggle, and Emotional Support (Job 12)

Have you ever felt the pain of struggling through challenges without fully understanding God’s plan?

Join us on a journey into Job 12, where the resilient Job not only faces external trials but also grapples with the internal struggle brought on by his friends’ perceptions of suffering.

As we navigate through the verses, uncover the profound wisdom that addresses not only the complexities of life’s challenges but also the emotional dynamics of supporting someone through adversity, allowing them to share their feelings and experiences.

(Continued and summarized after scripture.)

Job 12

Job Chides His Accusers

      1Then Job responded,

      2“Truly then you are the people,
And with you wisdom will die!

      3“But I have intelligence as well as you;
I am not inferior to you.
And who does not know such things as these?

      4“I am a joke to my friends,
The one who called on God and He answered him;
The just and blameless man is a joke.

      5“He who is at ease holds calamity in contempt,
As prepared for those whose feet slip.

      6“The tents of the destroyers prosper,
And those who provoke God are secure,
Whom God brings into their power.

      7“But now ask the beasts, and let them teach you;
And the birds of the heavens, and let them tell you.

      8“Or speak to the earth, and let it teach you;
And let the fish of the sea declare to you.

      9“Who among all these does not know
That the hand of the LORD has done this,

      10In whose hand is the life of every living thing,
And the breath of all mankind?

      11“Does not the ear test words,
As the palate tastes its food?

      12“Wisdom is with aged men,
With long life is understanding.

Job Speaks of the Power of God

13“With Him are wisdom and might;
To Him belong counsel and understanding.

      14“Behold, He tears down, and it cannot be rebuilt;
He imprisons a man, and there can be no release.

      15“Behold, He restrains the waters, and they dry up;
And He sends them out, and they inundate the earth.

      16“With Him are strength and sound wisdom,
The misled and the misleader belong to Him.

      17“He makes counselors walk barefoot
And makes fools of judges.

      18“He loosens the bond of kings
And binds their loins with a girdle.

      19“He makes priests walk barefoot
And overthrows the secure ones.

      20“He deprives the trusted ones of speech
And takes away the discernment of the elders.

      21“He pours contempt on nobles
And loosens the belt of the strong.

      22“He reveals mysteries from the darkness
And brings the deep darkness into light.

      23“He makes the nations great, then destroys them;
He enlarges the nations, then leads them away.

      24“He deprives of intelligence the chiefs of the earth’s people
And makes them wander in a pathless waste.

      25“They grope in darkness with no light,
And He makes them stagger like a drunken man.

Summary of Key Points:

  1. Job’s Resilience in Adversity: Job’s remarkable resilience shines through as he continues to accept God’s sovereignty, even in the midst of profound suffering. Despite not fully understanding, Job refrains from questioning God and instead gives vent to his deep anguish.
  2. Insights into God’s Sovereignty: Delve into the wisdom woven into Job 12, highlighting the challenges of accepting God’s sovereignty during struggles. Acknowledge that this acceptance can bring both comfort and confusion, as the reasons behind God allowing pain may remain unclear. Emphasize choosing to lead our hearts to accept God’s sovereignty as a source of hope, grounded in our faith in Him.
  3. Internal Struggle and Open Dialogues: Uncover the emotional dynamics as Job grapples with the internal struggle caused by his friends’ perceptions of suffering being the result of sin. Reflect on the profound nature of the open and vigorous dialogue between Job and his friends, showcasing their ability to discuss serious matters with honesty and depth, as true friends should.

Let’s reflect not only on the external challenges but also on the internal struggles and emotional dynamics that accompany adversity.

Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments, fostering a supportive community where individuals can open up about their feelings and challenges.

Engage with friends or family in conversations about providing empathetic support in times of need.

Join us on this journey of discovery, drawing strength from the resilience and open dialogues revealed in Job 12 and the shared experiences of those navigating life’s complexities.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda


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Work Ethic, Community, and Discernment (2 Thessalonians 3:6-18)

Embark on a journey through 2 Thessalonians 3:6-18, where the apostle Paul delves into the realms of work ethic, community dynamics, and the importance of discernment.

Join us as we explore the timeless wisdom encapsulated in these verses, offering insights into maintaining a diligent work ethic, fostering a harmonious Christian community, and discerning the spirit behind every action.

(Continued and summarized after scripture.)

2 Thessalonians 3:6-18

6Now we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you keep away from every brother who leads an unruly life and not according to the tradition which you received from us. 7For you yourselves know how you ought to follow our example, because we did not act in an undisciplined manner among you, 8nor did we eat anyone’s bread without paying for it, but with labor and hardship we kept working night and day so that we would not be a burden to any of you; 9not because we do not have the right to this, but in order to offer ourselves as a model for you, so that you would follow our example. 10For even when we were with you, we used to give you this order: if anyone is not willing to work, then he is not to eat, either. 11For we hear that some among you are leading an undisciplined life, doing no work at all, but acting like busybodies. 12Now such persons we command and exhort in the Lord Jesus Christ to work in quiet fashion and eat their own bread. 13But as for you, brethren, do not grow weary of doing good.

14If anyone does not obey our instruction in this letter, take special note of that person and do not associate with him, so that he will be put to shame. 15Yet do not regard him as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother.

16Now may the Lord of peace Himself continually grant you peace in every circumstance. The Lord be with you all!

17I, Paul, write this greeting with my own hand, and this is a distinguishing mark in every letter; this is the way I write. 18The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all.

Summary of Key Points:

  1. Maintaining a Diligent Work Ethic: 2 Thessalonians 3:6-18 begins with Paul’s exhortation for believers to maintain a diligent work ethic. Reflect on the significance of contributing to your own support through hard work and the transformative impact it has on personal character and the community. Consider the powerful instruction in verse 10, “if anyone is not willing to work, then he is not to eat, either.”
  2. Fostering a Harmonious Christian Community: Delve into Paul’s teachings on community dynamics, emphasizing the importance of living in harmony with fellow believers. Reflect on the transformative power of mutual support, shared responsibilities, and the collective effort to maintain a peaceful and flourishing Christian community. This works when truly fueled by Christian believers who are minding the work ethic mentioned above. It fails when people refuse to work but still take support from others.
  3. Discerning the Spirit Behind Actions: Paul addresses the need for discernment in evaluating the actions of individuals within the community. Uncover the wisdom behind discerning the spirit behind every action, fostering a community environment where genuine faith and dedication thrive. Why we do something is important… not just what we do.

Let’s reflect on the lessons about work ethic, community dynamics, and discernment.

How do these principles resonate with your own journey of faith and community life?

Share your insights in the comments and initiate conversations with friends or family, fostering a collective exploration of the wisdom woven into these verses.

Join us, and let’s together uncover the enduring truths that guide us in our Christian walk.

May the grace and peace of our Lord, Yeshua, be with you.

John Golda


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Choose Your Friends Carefully but Choose to Develop Friendships

Even those who are very close to the Father in their personal walk in life, benefit richly from having a few close, trusted companions sharing in the work of Christ together. Paul found joy and encouragement in fellow servants of Christ such as Timothy and Epaphroditus.

Philippians 2:19-30

Timothy and Epaphroditus

     19But I hope in the Lord Jesus to send Timothy to you shortly, so that I also may be encouraged when I learn of your condition. 20For I have no one else of kindred spirit who will genuinely be concerned for your welfare. 21For they all seek after their own interests, not those of Christ Jesus. 22But you know of his proven worth, that he served with me in the furtherance of the gospel like a child serving his father. 23Therefore I hope to send him immediately, as soon as I see how things go with me; 24and I trust in the Lord that I myself also will be coming shortly. 25But I thought it necessary to send to you Epaphroditus, my brother and fellow worker and fellow soldier, who is also your messenger and minister to my need; 26because he was longing for you all and was distressed because you had heard that he was sick. 27For indeed he was sick to the point of death, but God had mercy on him, and not on him only but also on me, so that I would not have sorrow upon sorrow. 28Therefore I have sent him all the more eagerly so that when you see him again you may rejoice and I may be less concerned about you. 29Receive him then in the Lord with all joy, and hold men like him in high regard; 30because he came close to death for the work of Christ, risking his life to complete what was deficient in your service to me.

Let us work together as a body of Christ, not as separate individuals. That said, also note that Paul was very discriminating. He did not simply partner with anyone verbalizing support for Christ.

21For they all seek after their own interests, not those of Christ Jesus.

Paul was discerning in whom He chose and we should be also. Who we associate with will influence our walk with the Father… either to strengthen it or to weaken it. Choose your friends wisely. Let their faith and obedience to Christ be foremost in that decision.

It is also a good reminder to choose to be a good friend, as Timothy and Epaphroditus were for Paul… especially when Paul was experiencing difficulty.

Spend time praying and reflecting on the friends in your life. Do you have close Christian friends to help you and encourage you? Are you living out life as a good friend to others? Ask God to lead you in what changes you should make.

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